Not so Christian Brothers
An authentic look at modern masculinity from two brothers from different generations. They share insights on fatherhood, brotherhood, and everything in between.
It's presented by veteran broadcaster Colm Hayes who's voice is instantly recognizable from his years in FM104, RTE and presently Ireland's Classic Hits radio and his brother Justin Caffrey , a well renowned high-performance coach and entrepreneur.
With years of experience between them and stories you've probably never heard before, you may want to get involved.
These guys don't mess around, it's funny, informative, current, sensitive and ball-breaking all at the same time.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Not so Christian Brothers
An authentic look at modern masculinity from two brothers from different generations. They share insights on fatherhood, brotherhood, and everything in between.
It's presented by veteran broadcaster Colm Hayes who's voice is instantly recognizable from his years in FM104, RTE and presently Ireland's Classic Hits radio and his brother Justin Caffrey , a well renowned high-performance coach and entrepreneur.
With years of experience between them and stories you've probably never heard before, you may want to get involved.
These guys don't mess around, it's funny, informative, current, sensitive and ball-breaking all at the same time.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Before we dive in, we want to pause. Colm’s beautiful wife Anne — married 35 years — has sadly passed away. We are all devastated for Colm, Holly, Alex, and Anne’s wider family. It is with heavy hearts that we proceed with releasing this show. We felt it was important to keep going, to give us all something to focus our energy and attention on. We send Colm all our love and support, and we hope to have him back with Justin on the sofa next week. Justin, Rebecca, Terry & Beatrice. x
With Beatrice stepping back in as co-host, this week’s Not So Christian Brothers digs deep into one big question: are we destined by nature, or shaped by nurture?
The conversation takes unexpected turns:
This is an episode full of raw honesty, hard questions, and surprising hope.
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 – Sending Love to Colm
Opening with support for Colm and his family after Anne’s passing.
01:12 – Can We Change Our Destiny?
Introducing this week’s big question: nature, nurture, or choice?
05:16 – Growing Up as “The Mistake”
Justin shares how being labelled and living with dyslexia shaped his drive.
07:38 – Labels That Stick
How childhood labels — “the sporty one,” “the dumb one” — box us in.
10:02 – When Trauma Rewrites a Life
Beatrice recalls losing her father at four, and how it changed her path.
12:21 – Surgery Without Anesthesia
Justin connects his early trauma to workaholism, contrasted with a friend’s addiction.
14:38 – Labels and Identity
Rebecca on how being “the fun one” shaped (and limited) her identity.
16:13 – Family Narratives and Projection
Why families often keep us in the roles we had as children.
19:12 – What Others Think Is None of Your Business
Justin on resilience and letting go of outside opinions.
22:16 – Expectations and Disappointment
Why birthdays, love, and recognition often disappoint us — and how to change that.
24:42 – Hurt People, Hurt People
Why negative comments usually say more about the speaker than the target.
27:22 – Managing Expectations in Relationships
Beatrice explains how lowering expectations creates more peace at home.
28:48 – Are Our Lives Predestined?
Closing reflections: do we arrive where we’re meant to be, or are we constantly rewriting our story?
31:02 – Like, Subscribe & Follow
Closing thanks, with a nod to the Aftershow and Colm’s return.
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