100: Our Very Last Show - The End Part 2 - Everybody Talks Jewish Matchmaking

Nobody Talks Shidduchim Podcast (2019 - 2023)

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IJ (Izak) and Avery (Avigdor) retire after 4 years. They discuss Netflix's Jewish Matchmaking. It’s a big one folks! Izak and Avigdor pull down the curtain, it’s not goodbye son, it’s I’ll see ya later.
1) Avigdor Wolf as Avery
2) Shevi Lipschitz as Rosie
3) Fagie Strom as Paige
4) Avromi Meyer as Rabbi AY
5) Yona & Chani Laster as The Lasters

6) Ahuva Shandelman as Holy Shid

7) Izak J. Held as IJ

Guest Cast:
1) Yona Laster
2) Chani Laster
3) Devora Kahan aka Miss D
4) Shevi Lipschitz
5) Faige Strom
6) Avromi Meyer
7) Rachel Vaynberg
8) Holy Shid aka Ahuva Shandelman
9) Cousin Malc aka Michael Max
10) Serena aka Rikki Yarmish
11) Alexis aka Blimi
12) Tamar
13) Lakewood Michal
14) Lakewood Tami
15) Felix
16) Shlomo from Nashville

17) Missy aka Samantha

18) Emm aka Malya

19) JoJo aka Isaac Nahon

20) Yosef Feldman

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After 4 years of talking shidduchim, Izak and Avigdor retire.

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Ever have a role model growing up? We all look to someone as a person that we can strive to be. In high school it may be the senior when you are a freshman. In camp it may be your counselor when you are a camper. Or in yeshiva it could be a Morah or Rabbi of yours. In this episode we discuss role models, and what they mean to you and your life. Paige and Nechama join IJ in this episode.

1) What is a role model?

2) Can siblings be a role model?

3) Are we dealing with a generation that was raised to resent their role models?

4) Jewish versus non-Jewish role models

5) When role models "go off the rails" what to do?

94 - Bachelor Party Bitachon

So the main man is getting married and it’s happening, the big wedding day that everyone’s excited about. But now it’s time to throw the bachelor party. What can you do as an Orthodox Jew doing a bachelor party? Are there limits to the fun you can have? What is a Jewish bachelor party like? Yosef, Eliyahu & Shua/Jared join IJ in this episode.


1) when you’re younger, everyone comes to the bachelor party, when you’re older, it’s a different story
2) Here’s why you want rich friends
3) Do all guys just go to the steakhouse and then the Cigar Lounge?
4) Is the bride allowed at the bachelor party?
5) Is a bachelorette party a thing in the Jewish community?
6) What if there’s beef between some of the groomsmen?
7) I know what if certain guys can’t pay or afford to chip in to cover the group?
8) What if it’s one of these three day luxurious trips?
9) Ranking shidduch dates from Michigan, Maryland, Florida, California, Minnesota, Illinois & Israel

Enter The Meta-Shidduch-Verse: What It Was Like To Be Married For The Day

THE SHIDDUCHVERSE aka Multiverse: IJ and Avery enter the meta-verse...After opening up a magical box of Latkes on Chanukah... In the universe of Westeros IJ and Avery have different lives. In this alternative reality IJ is a stay at home Dad (with a cool haircut home biz), married to a beautiful women he met on his 5th shidduch date experience. His wife Darla, actually joins the podcast to preach her Shidduch take. Avery is a comedic writing tycoon, married to Olga, a rich Russian Oligarch's daughter, attorney and currently spends his fat alimony checks (from his first wife) on lucrative neighborhood tennis matches.

They decide that it's time for them to get into the podcast game. Here's what that world looks like...

1) What's wrong with these single people?

2) Here's why they are getting it wrong...

3) Why do they think they can hang out with us and our married friends...echh gross

4) Here is a list of Shadchanit's they need to listen too

5) Dvar Torah

6) Our interview with a shadchan (they know what their doing)

7) AI DATING (Artificial intelligence dating)

Izak and Malky follow up from episode 5, they discuss the full process of actually planning a date. Though, this time it's magical and it's exactly how the ladies would like it to be :). Izak also wears a wicked cool Chanukah sweater.

1) What is the best first date place?
2) Where do you go for the second?
After going to a Lounge for the first date, what place is best to go  to for a second date?
A) Lounge (again?)
B) A Lite Dairy Restaurant (too soon to be eating?)
C) Activity (you don’t really know them yet!
When can you just give up on going out and just hang out with each other… Basically becoming an official couple
3) What would the perfect conversation be like?
4) Where she lives debate…can you date near her town??
5) The spots you just don’t want to go go
6) Can the girl just meet you half way?
7) Can you do an action first date
8) Making reservations, what is the girls take on whether a guy calls up in advance about a reservation or not? Precocious of him?
9) girls Having to have backup plans just in case the guy goofs or something unplanned happens. Precarious of him?

#dating #jewish #chanukah #hanukkah #weddings 

91: Tales of the Shidduch Journeywoman
What is a Journeywoman? A woman who is an experienced and competent professional in her field but doesn't yet have that "trophy boyfriend or husband" to show off! So we have heard from the journeymen; now we are spotlighting the journeywomen, well one woman and that's Rivka who tells us what's going on with the Shidduch Journeywoman's life. Part 2 of this cast, IJ and JoJo chat about the chagim (jewish holidays) for singles.
1. Figuring out the uncle and aunt life
2. What are niblings?
3. Continued discussion on long distance dating challenges
4. The time zone tobbacle!
5. Getting catfished
6. When you have to move away after you get married
7. Culture changes when you're in a relationship
8. When you can say "but my rabbi said"
9. How not to rely on friend setups!!

90 - Long Distance Dating and Reflecting On That Whole Zoom Thing

We continue the long-distance convo from episode 72. Long-distance can be quite the challenge for many couples but it could also provide a very unique and special experience. There’s a plethora of awesomeness and problems that can take place during a long distance relationship. Are you one of those who this has happened to? Izak is joined by Rivka and Rabbi AY to opine.


1) Does long-distance really work?
2) Did zooming during COVID count as long distance?
3) People are so busy today. It’s like all dating is  long distance.
4) Making sure they are a real person and not a cat fish!
5) What if both parties struggle with moving away from where they are?
6) Is face timing a substitute for in person dating?
7) How come small minded people roll their eyes when you tell people that you met and are together primarily online
8) Ideas for facetime Dates! Like actually doing something
9) Taking long-distance breaks
10) Getting over regrets

#jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #sheitals #podcast #shabbos #simchas #weddings #jewishlife #modestfashion #jewishfashion #shabbos #kosher

89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid)

Ever wonder how orthodox Jewish women become dating coaches or therapists? in this episode, we discuss with dating expert Ahuva Shandelman LCSW how she got to where she is today. The gang also discusses the continuous tales of the Shidduch journey-person.

Dating specialists tales:
1) How the whole social work thing caught on
2) Going to a male therapist vs a female therapist
3) Jewish vs. nonJewish therapist
4) How you get into being a “Shidduch/dating expert”
5) How you relate your experience to those who have dating struggles
6) Commonalities of struggling daters
7) Parent care taker situation

#jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #girls #weddings

88: There’s nothing wrong with you because you are single (ft. Jackie Glaser) 

In a world with so much stereotyping of orthodox Jewish singles, Jackie Glaser brings a fresh perspective On the fact that there really isn’t anything wrong with you. Dating is mostly a struggle for frum Singles, here are some ways you can alleviate your dating experience and break through preconceived notions when trying to affiliate yourself with the Jewish community and your dates. 

1) Baruch Hashem Syndrome!!
2a) Is there really nothing wrong with someone when they are single? Clearly women or men are not finding this person attractive or viable, tell us more
2b) Singles see the problems with many current married people & there just may not be any realistic role models
3) Crap Testing Singles!! Jackie's Adam Neumann Story
4) What do you do with your position in the Jewish community, do you move on and look for other things or do you stay and fight back the stereotype?
5) Is there really something wrong with Singles or is it that there’s actually nowhere to find Singles? (& mature singles [Avery explains])
6) what are your singles saying about the Shidduch scene and their struggles?
7) Burn out is very real, keeping up at work, keeping up with yourself, salvaging your friends and family relationships, why are so many women closed off to trying? Why are so many men looking for the quick fix?
8) we noticed a lot of mental health advocacy like meditation and other tools for this genre, is it becoming more popular? Or is it the only answer?
9) How do you actually get more relaxed on dates? CBD, cigarette break? jump in on a Netflix and ice cream binge?
10) The trend of being a people pleaser, so many young girls are pressured by matchmakers to just be a people pleaser but in the world of today like social media and people’s voices to be heard perhaps it’s not the best thing. Also I learned in my pick up class that it is actually good to not always please & not always get excited about every single interest that your date may have…

Ep 87 Brachos and Segulas: Are they hocus pocus or will it get you married?
In this episode IJ & Avery discuss the concept of brachos & segulas people receive regarding be marrige.

1. What are the brachos & seuglas people refer to you need before marrige?
2. Mazal
3. Do the rabbinim really have any insight in to whom you will get married to?
4. Are kabbalists more accurate when predicting who you'll marry?
5. If their brachos don't work what next?
6. Should we stop giving money to these people who are giving us false blessings.
7. How to detect which rabbanim to trust when it comes to asking for a bracha.
8. Is the psychology of blessings the real reason they "work" for some, meaning; you manifest what you believe in.
9. Going to kevarim, repealing ayin haras,, bashert and all other spiritual quest. Do they work?
10. Diff between short term and long term segulas (ex of long term: (shir hashirim, nishmat kol chai, and going to the kotel (all for40 days in a row)
11. This is a sub topic but along the lines of segulas I think one of the main reasons people do them is out of desperation and I’ve been suggested some shadchanim that really take advantage of that and charge ridicuuuuulousssss fees

Ep 86: Zodiac Signs, Names & The Unknown

Even in Game of Thrones there was the religious, spooky and unknown factors out there in that universe. Here on NTS we believe that there are other things that could cause and effect shidduch dating. IJ, Avery & Cousin Malcolm opine…
1) Zodiac Signs Intro
2) Zodiac Signs: is it real that some zodiacs cannot be with others?
3) Also, why are gals so obsessed with this stuff?
4) Is it true that Names have to match up in order to be together?
5) What is the Torah's perspective on Zodiac Signs (Cousin Malcolm jives in)
6) Avery and IJ's Zodiac signs, and everybody else's
7) Avery discusses his books and their lessons
8) Most common Jewish names:
9) avi, ari, malky, shimi, yaakov, yitz, moshe, etc...
10) What do these names mean?

85 - Hobbies, Social Clubs & Going Home for the Chagim
When you are not working or with the friends/family, orthodox jewish singles have a unique opportunity, this is; to explore new things and new social groups. After that Paige & the NTS guys discuss more on the single life coterie.

1) Escaping too much family time during yuntif!
2) What kinds of social clubs are out there for singles?
3) Pickle ball, improv, hookah lounges, comedy clubs, etc...
4) How to handle going back home for the chagim and discussing it
5) Men going to shul and women going to tehillim groups
6) How to tell a shadchan that you have a social club
7) Whether or not to tell a shul goer (parishioner) in your old community about your new endeavors

#jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #mazaltov #lakewood #monsey #5towns

A work life balance is certainly something we all strive for. Is it truly feasible while living in Orthodox Jewish life? In this episode we bring on corporate employees who try to make best of their Jewish life and work life balance. Our grandparents had to give it up if they had to work for Shabbos, are we any different?

1) What is a corporate place? (Everyone defines)
2) tell us about the schedule for a person who wants to make it in a corporate setting
3) What kind of education do they have to have, can they go to Yeshiva University, Landers College For Men/Women, Touro University?
4) Is getting home for Shabbat really tough on those early fridays?
5) Can you take Off for a Jewish holidays or are you really taking off and making up the time?
6) Do you go to the companywide Christmas party? I heard it’s really fun!
7) shabbat and chag:
-telling employer/teams/clients
-setting boundaries: leaving early and not responding to messages
-situations where jobs require work on weekends
-when holidays fall out during busy times

Ever notice that you enjoy the power of the swipe more than the dating itself? Maybe it's the rush or maybe you just haven't found Mr. or Mrs. Perfect yet. Sarah Haskell (Tiktok content creator as That Relatable Jew) joins Avery and IJ to discuss serial shidduch daters, shidduchim and the dating life as an orthodox Jewish twenties & thirties year old.

1) Can the girls define a serial shidduch dater? Can the boys?

2) Is serial shidduch dating some kind of addiction?

3) How hard it is to actually sort through the shuffle...

4) Is it easier for a guy or a girl to be the shidduch dater?

5) Why would you give a chance to a serial dater?

6) Why do girls love serial male daters!!

7) Why is it a stereotype that guys don't actually like gal serial daters?

8) TikTok and social medias role in the dating universe!

Ever think that there should be more shidduch shabbatons out there? We agree. Izak record's this episode with Isaac and Devora from Build A Bayis Inc., a shidduch events & shabbaton organization that looks to keep singles “busy” all the time.

1) What is a Shabbaton?
2) Why is speed dating so darn popular!
3) Walk us through the planning details!
4) Age parameters
5) Vetting
6) Hashkafa
7) Why is pricing so high? Or so cheap?
8) Tell us about the shabbatons you hosted!
9) Why aren’t there more shidduch events and shabbatons!?
10) Does a shadchan have to partake in order for this to happen?
11) How do you convince the frugal to give you a chance as well as the lavish party people out there?
12) Can you ask the guy/gal out right there?
13) Why does feedback take so long!

Episode 81: Food, Family & Guilt
The Role of Food in the Jewish Community with Chef Mendy Wolf. HBO’s Sopranos was a phenomenal depiction of Italian life in America. Perhaps the most relatable aspect of the show was its depiction of all things food, eating & solid cuisine. What is the role of food in the Jewish community, does it mean more to our community than others?

1) Diffrent kosher cuisines
2) Toughest parts about keeping kosher
3) What kinds of kosher keeping is there?
4) the private chef life and what it’s all about
5) Is a healthy kosher lifestyle attainable?
6) Why is it stereotypical for only women to be able to cook or have to cook!?
7) The rise of kosher taste is up! What do we do about it?
8) Inflation is here! How to budget and get the best bang for your grocery shopping
9) why is every Jewish single either a professional and a cook or a DJ? Or girl is a fashion influencer?
10) Is food a placebo for intimacy, partying or other vices?