Being the first means to get a lot of responsibility.It's a lot of don't spill the milk, don't be bossy.I learned to listen for changes in the mood.The guilt sits in the background and makes the room feel smaller.I learned to redefine success; it isn't about being perfect.The firstborn often becomes the keeper of the family plan.You could see patterns before problems start.The best memories are the messy, honest ones, not perfect ones.Your leadership as the firstborn is quiet and steady.Being first isn't about being flawless, it's about growing in front of others.