Have you ever come to a place where you’re breaking down from facing all your truths about yourself. About how you have conducted yourself life? How you once moved blindly through life as if you were on your own cloud.  Although we should forever move forward. Strive towards happiness. And breath some relieve. There comes a time when we have to cut all the fantasizing out and truly take a look at ourselves with a magnifying glass that even reveals the gunk in the crevices.  Where you and I  have dared to look when you are cracking halfway smiles and experiencing what should be joyful milestones and changes in life. Yet something is missing. We feel disconnected on every level. There comes a time where you have to dig deep into all the natural facts and details of how we got where you are now. How did life happen the way it did for us. Who were we before all the changes? Then that's when it happens you find that you may have not been as innocent as you thought. You might have taken actions that didn't practice the best of appreciation for yourself or others involved. You made unfocused and forced decisions and moved in life with a lack of emotional intelligence.  To wake up and realize how quick and nonchalant it all happened, you are forced to cry out, scream, and just feel like you are not worthy of that person, person's, thing, or level of advancement.  You begin to see how you carelessly on a whim made decisions that not only alter your life but so many others. As you come to this realization, you feel defeated, hurt, like a broken heart overwhelmed by the truth of your true identity.  You can't fake a breakthrough. We can claim it, and that's good, but it doesn't happen until we stop falsifying how our current and past collide. How we let our emotions and concern for self only interrupt our world.  I'm walking this out now! Yesterday I realized my truth, and it made me want to give up on pursuing happiness and the level of excellence I'm heading for in business. But I can't and won't stop. For a moment, I felt without any other choice. I called my sister, best friend, and friend and poured out my heart. My realization came by way of a phone call to get a specific date. From there, a simple call became a heartache. When I told you, ladies, we are walking this journey together. I didn't lie.  Yesterday after months of not understanding how I lost, true love, family, growth, and opportunity my truth, shot an arrow of realness to my heart.  Now, ladies, you may want to leave that man, (not an abusive scenario) but you once elevated each other, maybe it's children that are unruly and don't listen to your wisdom, and instruction, or perhaps it's a job or opportunity that leaves you feeling lackluster and empty. Whatever the case, take a moment and put your emotional intelligence in order. Try not to just see what you want, to gain an aspect of peace understanding and accomplishment. See the big picture of how it will affect all parties.  My breakthrough showed me how selfish and careless I was. My emotions called me to do things and make moves I would have never done had I just took a breather. The other thing is I learned every man or woman that says they have your back do not. There's always a hidden agenda. In most cases not, all. So watch who you bring to your backyard barbeques, or fancy dinner parties metaphorically speaking. I brought guests that complained about everything from the aesthetics of my home, decor, the taste of each dish, and the food presentation itself. And because I was the host. I was responsible for anything occurring at my party. I didn't handle it well at all. Yesterday I had to take responsibility for my actions, but I'm not staying there. I am moving forward toward my tomorrow that involves sound decisions that are profoundly respectful and encouraging to myself and others. To those who complain at my dinner party or barbeque, I forgive you! To those who were offended by others