What happens when a longtime marriage says “yes” to curiosity? In this candid convo, Freddy and Andi share how a flirt turned into a slow, consent-first path to non-monogamy—and how they “accidentally” became poly. We dig into the real stuff: jealousy and the fear of being replaced, what “check-ins” actually mean (hint: eye contact isn’t enough), and why emotional regulation beats willpower when the feelings get loud. They open up about past secrecy, rebuilding trust, discovering compersion, and why retreats (hello, Expansive Connection) gave them tools that parties never could. Expect practical takeaways on requests vs. mind-reading, setting pace without pressure, navigating separate dates, and creating love that expands—without losing “my person.” Featuring: - Freddy & Andy’s 15-year journey from “big no” to sustainable poly - The exact check-in framework that stopped spirals - Lessons from men’s/women’s circles, real-time coaching, and a regulation breakthrough - Hot-wife dynamics, long-term girlfriend logistics, and staying special while sharing If you’re opening up, curious about poly, or healing after a breach, this episode is your field guide to honest rules, softer landings, and deeper love.