Your loneliness isn't weakness, it's love without a home.
In this raw and reflective episode, writer and mindset coach Katie Horwitch joins Alice to explore the emotional roots of identity, self-talk, loneliness, and healing. Katie shares her journey from childhood eating disorders to building a platform that helps others shift their inner narratives—without sugarcoating the messiness of that process.
Together, they dive into the stories we tell ourselves when we’re rejected, the parts of us we learn to perform, and why so many high-functioning people are secretly lonely.
You’ll hear:
Why Katie says “loneliness is love with nowhere to go”
How eating disorders were a way to create control and connection
The cost of being the “good girl” in every room
Why self-love isn’t the same as self-like
What happens when recognition doesn't feel like belonging
How to break fluency in negative self-talk—and learn a new emotional language
This episode is a compassionate and cutting look at how we reject ourselves before anyone else can—and what it takes to stop.
Chapters:
00:50 Intro
03:02 When Katie realized her dream no longer fit
07:44 How eating disorders became a survival strategy
10:55 Performing perfection and the cost of control
14:20 “I was fluent in shame”
16:12 Loneliness as a side effect of masking
18:49 Rebuilding identity after letting go of the stage
23:03 Self-talk as a learned language
26:57 What happens when we stop performing healing
30:14 Why recognition felt hollow without real connection
34:30 Holding high standards and self-compassion
38:08 Katie’s approach to rebuilding community and belonging
42:10 Where to find Katie and her work
Resources & Links:
Katie’s book: Want Yourself
Website: katiehorwitch.com
Follow Katie on Instagram: @katiehorwitch