Lack of Empathic Atoms | Episode 023 Every manager who has passed some personality test knows that he is predisposed to achieve fast results or build relationships with others. No matter the natural preconditions, everyone chooses whether to make a daily effort to work with others during change. Or to stay and work on a lonely island, where there is no need to change and synchronize his work style with others. Here the usual resistance of managers is that they do not want to change. They want other people to adapt to their style of work. If others can't, then it's my way or the highway. The truth is that successful managers neither require anyone else to change nor put on masks to pretend they are someone different. These managers are very aware of who exactly they are. And they support their people to clarify the same for themselves. From this authentic place, they can work great together - united in their differences. Many managers do not have a single natural atom of empathy in their bodies. All the empathic particles they have in their body have been created synthetically in the laboratory conditions of parking the ego and biting their tongue. This requires daily disciplined efforts. But no one said it would be easy. The real problem with teamwork is not that something is difficult. The real problem is that people have expectations for their work to be easy. It is this discrepancy in expectations that creates impatience and irritation. If something is difficult and you expect it to be difficult, the work will go fine. But the dress-up of reality, both for yourself and the team, will always lead to a discrepancy in expectations. And from there to disappointment. These disappointments will cause accusations against others and further discord. Or the same blows can cause self-analysis and integration if there are more empathic atoms in people and the work atmosphere. Whether people will unite or separate in their difficulties and differences does not depend on the challenges and differences. It depends only on those working with these difficulties and on their level of empathy.       What causes natural instead of synthetic empathy in your work?---Book "Cold Shower for Managers: Empower and Inspire Your Team with Your Humility and Accountability by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/2Ka23CU---Book "Park Your Ego: Face Your Bullsh*t and Own It" by Plamen Petrov on Amazon - https://amzn.to/38VW3He