In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott have a candid, biblical conversation about the “sexless marriage”—why it happens, how pornography, busyness, medical issues, and poor communication play a role, and what couples can do to rebuild connection. They offer practical steps so you can move from roommates back to one-flesh intimacy.
Questions to Discuss:
1. In our season right now, does sex feel more like a thermometer (just reporting our temperature) or a thermostat (able to change it)? Why?
2. When was the last time we each felt truly pursued and enjoyed by the other? What specific actions helped?
3. What would make it safer for us to share desires, preferences, and fears about sex?
4. How can we renew the covenant this week in a way that is tender, unhurried, and mutually honoring?
Scriptures:
Ephesians 4:27
1 Corinthians 7:3-5
Resources:
Book - Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Michael Sytsma
Article – The Sex Recession
Book – Reconnected – Greg & Erin Smalley
More Than Roommates Interviews with Juli Slattery – Surrendered Sexuality & Sexual Abuse