Get Ramit's new book, Money for Couples at iwt.com/moneyforcouples. From Ramit Sethi, host of Netflix’s ‘How to Get Rich’ and author of NYT bestselling books, ‘I Will Teach You To Be Rich,’ and ‘Money for Couples’…
Imagine listening in on raw, unfiltered conversations with real couples, to explore how money psychology affects their everyday lives. Ramit talks with couples from all walks of life, helping them to get past guilt, resentment, & fighting over purchases, to help them create a shared vision for their Rich Life.
Ramit asks the questions we wish we all could ask, presenting a new philosophy on money: spend extravagantly on the things you love, and cut costs mercilessly on the things you don’t.
Follow Money For Couples on Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and X to start living your rich life today.
In Money for Couples, Ramit delves into the often-hidden dynamics around money issues in marriage, which can be some of the biggest challenges couples face. Money psychology impacts everything from everyday decisions to long-term dreams, and Ramit's finance coaching sessions with couples offer an eye-opening look into the deeper emotions behind financial choices.
Whether you're wondering how to save for a big goal, how to invest in a shared future, or simply looking to understand personal finance in a relationship better, this podcast delivers practical, actionable insights. Each conversation reveals that money in marriage isn't just about numbers—it's about values, trust, and working together toward a Rich Life that's unique to each couple. Ramit provides a safe space for couples to unpack the beliefs and habits that may hold them back financially, guiding them toward a shared vision for their lives. With humor and empathy, Ramit's finance coaching shows couples that they can learn to save and spend in ways that enhance, rather than hinder, their relationship.
Money for Couples is not only a finance podcast but a journey into what makes a marriage strong, financially and emotionally. Through the lens of personal finance, Ramit provides a blueprint for couples to navigate the challenges of managing money together, offering tools to make confident, aligned choices. So, whether you're a fan of the Ramit Sethi podcast or new to his philosophy, tune in and learn how to save, how to invest, and how to create a financial future with the person you love.
Ramit's unique approach to money psychology helps couples overcome common money issues in marriage, from guilt and resentment over purchases to aligning on long-term financial goals. By exploring real couples' stories, Ramit offers insights into how money mindset affects everyday decisions and bigger life dreams. His finance coaching provides couples with a safe space to unpack their beliefs and habits around spending, saving, and investing.
Rather than focusing solely on the numbers, Ramit emphasizes the importance of values, trust, and working together toward a shared vision for a Rich Life. Couples will learn practical strategies for managing money as a team, from saving for big purchases to building investment portfolios. Ramit's philosophy of "spend extravagantly on the things you love, and cut costs mercilessly on the things you don't" empowers listeners to make financial choices that enhance their relationship.
Money for Couples is an essential listen for any married or committed pair looking to improve their personal finance skills and deepen their emotional connection. Ramit's finance coaching and the real-life stories of the couples he features offer a blueprint for navigating the challenges of money in marriage. Whether you're a long-time listener of Ramit's work or new to his approach, this podcast will transform how you think about spending, saving, and investing as a couple.
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Get Ramit's new book, Money for Couples at iwt.com/moneyforcouples. From Ramit Sethi, host of Netflix’s ‘How to Get Rich’ and author of NYT bestselling books, ‘I Will Teach You To Be Rich,’ and ‘Money for Couples’…
Imagine listening in on raw, unfiltered conversations with real couples, to explore how money psychology affects their everyday lives. Ramit talks with couples from all walks of life, helping them to get past guilt, resentment, & fighting over purchases, to help them create a shared vision for their Rich Life.
Ramit asks the questions we wish we all could ask, presenting a new philosophy on money: spend extravagantly on the things you love, and cut costs mercilessly on the things you don’t.
Follow Money For Couples on Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and X to start living your rich life today.
In Money for Couples, Ramit delves into the often-hidden dynamics around money issues in marriage, which can be some of the biggest challenges couples face. Money psychology impacts everything from everyday decisions to long-term dreams, and Ramit's finance coaching sessions with couples offer an eye-opening look into the deeper emotions behind financial choices.
Whether you're wondering how to save for a big goal, how to invest in a shared future, or simply looking to understand personal finance in a relationship better, this podcast delivers practical, actionable insights. Each conversation reveals that money in marriage isn't just about numbers—it's about values, trust, and working together toward a Rich Life that's unique to each couple. Ramit provides a safe space for couples to unpack the beliefs and habits that may hold them back financially, guiding them toward a shared vision for their lives. With humor and empathy, Ramit's finance coaching shows couples that they can learn to save and spend in ways that enhance, rather than hinder, their relationship.
Money for Couples is not only a finance podcast but a journey into what makes a marriage strong, financially and emotionally. Through the lens of personal finance, Ramit provides a blueprint for couples to navigate the challenges of managing money together, offering tools to make confident, aligned choices. So, whether you're a fan of the Ramit Sethi podcast or new to his philosophy, tune in and learn how to save, how to invest, and how to create a financial future with the person you love.
Ramit's unique approach to money psychology helps couples overcome common money issues in marriage, from guilt and resentment over purchases to aligning on long-term financial goals. By exploring real couples' stories, Ramit offers insights into how money mindset affects everyday decisions and bigger life dreams. His finance coaching provides couples with a safe space to unpack their beliefs and habits around spending, saving, and investing.
Rather than focusing solely on the numbers, Ramit emphasizes the importance of values, trust, and working together toward a shared vision for a Rich Life. Couples will learn practical strategies for managing money as a team, from saving for big purchases to building investment portfolios. Ramit's philosophy of "spend extravagantly on the things you love, and cut costs mercilessly on the things you don't" empowers listeners to make financial choices that enhance their relationship.
Money for Couples is an essential listen for any married or committed pair looking to improve their personal finance skills and deepen their emotional connection. Ramit's finance coaching and the real-life stories of the couples he features offer a blueprint for navigating the challenges of money in marriage. Whether you're a long-time listener of Ramit's work or new to his approach, this podcast will transform how you think about spending, saving, and investing as a couple.
239. "He quit his high paying job and didn’t tell me"
Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi
1 hour 41 minutes
4 weeks ago
239. "He quit his high paying job and didn’t tell me"
Jamie (45) and Ryan (36) have been married for nearly a decade and share three kids, but their financial foundation was shaken when Ryan quit his high-paying finance job and cashed out his 401(k) without telling Jamie. Now earning far less, they’re still spending like nothing changed, running up credit card debt and ending each month wondering where the money went. Jamie, the higher earner, is anxious about retirement and trust after years of financial surprises, while Ryan avoids money conversations and struggles with insecurity. Layered on top are a 10-year age gap, deep past trauma, and very different visions of a Rich Life. Can Ramit help them rebuild trust, create a real plan, and finally start acting like partners instead of adversaries?
In this episode we uncover:
• The moment Jamie learned Ryan quit his high-paying job and cashed out his 401(k)
• How Ryan’s breaking point at work led to a “nuclear option” decision that shifted stress from the office straight into their marriage
Why earning nearly $300K still leaves them feeling broke
• The trust fallout from repeated unilateral decisions, including quitting jobs, cashing out retirement accounts, and impulsive purchases
• How Ryan’s spending on shoes, clothes, and even a classic car mirrors patterns he watched growing up
• Jamie’s role as the default financial manager
• The vacation-vs-things blame cycle that keeps them stuck spending instead of saving
• Why hiding money in a separate savings account felt like the only way Jamie could protect their future
• The uncomfortable truth behind their $13K emergency fund
• How calling their own spending “stupid” and “dumb” keeps them trapped in shame instead of change
• The emotional toll of living in constant financial vigilance while still spending freely on convenience and comfort
• How a failed $500 spending rule exposed their lack of shared systems
• The powerful influence of Midwestern money guilt, family secrecy, and conflicting childhood money messages
• Jamie’s past divorce and financial trauma
• The shift from adversaries to collaborators
Chapters:
(00:00:00) “We’ll just go our separate ways”
(00:18:56) Ramit breaks down their numbers
(00:40:49) “Smart people can make stupid choices”
(00:52:26) “Can we become a team again?”
(01:02:09) “Is this a Rich Life—or just a really long to-do list?”
(01:14:36) “You’ve turned dysfunction into permission”
(01:28:57) “I’m bitter that I have to pay it off”
(01:39:21) Where are they now? Jamie and Ryan’s follow-ups
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Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi
Get Ramit's new book, Money for Couples at iwt.com/moneyforcouples. From Ramit Sethi, host of Netflix’s ‘How to Get Rich’ and author of NYT bestselling books, ‘I Will Teach You To Be Rich,’ and ‘Money for Couples’…
Imagine listening in on raw, unfiltered conversations with real couples, to explore how money psychology affects their everyday lives. Ramit talks with couples from all walks of life, helping them to get past guilt, resentment, & fighting over purchases, to help them create a shared vision for their Rich Life.
Ramit asks the questions we wish we all could ask, presenting a new philosophy on money: spend extravagantly on the things you love, and cut costs mercilessly on the things you don’t.
Follow Money For Couples on Instagram, YouTube, Facebook, and X to start living your rich life today.
In Money for Couples, Ramit delves into the often-hidden dynamics around money issues in marriage, which can be some of the biggest challenges couples face. Money psychology impacts everything from everyday decisions to long-term dreams, and Ramit's finance coaching sessions with couples offer an eye-opening look into the deeper emotions behind financial choices.
Whether you're wondering how to save for a big goal, how to invest in a shared future, or simply looking to understand personal finance in a relationship better, this podcast delivers practical, actionable insights. Each conversation reveals that money in marriage isn't just about numbers—it's about values, trust, and working together toward a Rich Life that's unique to each couple. Ramit provides a safe space for couples to unpack the beliefs and habits that may hold them back financially, guiding them toward a shared vision for their lives. With humor and empathy, Ramit's finance coaching shows couples that they can learn to save and spend in ways that enhance, rather than hinder, their relationship.
Money for Couples is not only a finance podcast but a journey into what makes a marriage strong, financially and emotionally. Through the lens of personal finance, Ramit provides a blueprint for couples to navigate the challenges of managing money together, offering tools to make confident, aligned choices. So, whether you're a fan of the Ramit Sethi podcast or new to his philosophy, tune in and learn how to save, how to invest, and how to create a financial future with the person you love.
Ramit's unique approach to money psychology helps couples overcome common money issues in marriage, from guilt and resentment over purchases to aligning on long-term financial goals. By exploring real couples' stories, Ramit offers insights into how money mindset affects everyday decisions and bigger life dreams. His finance coaching provides couples with a safe space to unpack their beliefs and habits around spending, saving, and investing.
Rather than focusing solely on the numbers, Ramit emphasizes the importance of values, trust, and working together toward a shared vision for a Rich Life. Couples will learn practical strategies for managing money as a team, from saving for big purchases to building investment portfolios. Ramit's philosophy of "spend extravagantly on the things you love, and cut costs mercilessly on the things you don't" empowers listeners to make financial choices that enhance their relationship.
Money for Couples is an essential listen for any married or committed pair looking to improve their personal finance skills and deepen their emotional connection. Ramit's finance coaching and the real-life stories of the couples he features offer a blueprint for navigating the challenges of money in marriage. Whether you're a long-time listener of Ramit's work or new to his approach, this podcast will transform how you think about spending, saving, and investing as a couple.
