Summary
In this episode of the Mommy Oyoyo Podcast, Berry Dakara shares her comprehensive back-to-school preparation strategies. From organizing school supplies and establishing routines to budgeting for the school year and reconnecting with friends, she provides practical tips for parents to ensure a smooth transition into the new school year. Berry emphasizes the importance of planning ahead, setting goals with children, and maintaining open communication with teachers and school staff.
Takeaways
Typically in African society and culture, women are expected to not only have, but WANT to have children. From childhood, African women are generally told by society that marriage and motherhood are the ultimate life goals. In this episode, I speak with Zeezee, who has never felt the longing to be a mother. She shares very candidly about how she came to the decision to be childfree, navigating pushback and societal pressure, having difficult conversations with potential partners, and more!
Whether you're firmly childfree, questioning your options, or simply curious about this life path, this episode is for you.
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Motherhood is an incredible journey filled with love, joy, and growth. But it's also natural to feel nostalgic for certain aspects of your pre-mom life. In this episode, we'll explore some of the things moms commonly miss, with a mix of humor, honesty, and a touch of wistfulness. Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @MommyOyoyo. Don't forget to rate, review, share and subscribe to the podcast on Apple, Spotify, Amazon, and more! Share your feedback to any episode, the podcast and any suggestions for future topics.
Stepmothers generally have a bad connotation from negative stereotypes driven by fairytales and folklore around the world. In this episode, I speak with Tambari about her high and low experiences of stepmotherhood. She recently started the @GoodStepmother brand on Instagram to fight the negativity surrounding step-parenting and push more positive content and provide support to a community of stepmothers. Tambari shares her candid thoughts and opinions on issues relating to stepmotherhood, e.g. the rivalry between birth mothers and stepmothers, when a potential stepmother should be introduced to her future stepchildren, etc.
Check out Tambari for more wholesome and positive content for stepmothers @GoodStepmother on Instagram.
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In today's world where society seems to be more and more materialistic and entitled, how do we raise children to have an attitude of gratitude? In this episode I share my thoughts on teaching children to be more grateful, with examples from my own parenting experience. I talk about some of the benefits of living a grateful life, and share practical ways to teach children to be grateful.
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When your children ask if they can go to their friends' houses for sleepovers, how do you respond? In this episode I share my thoughts on letting my daughter sleep over at someone else's house, as well as results from a poll posted on Instagram asking parents if they would let their child go to a sleepover. I also share a few tips for those parents who are considering letting their children attend a sleepover.
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In this episode, I shared responses from the Mommy Oyoyo audience to the question, "Should we be friends with our children? Yay or Nay?" The responses were varied with some advocating for being friends with our children, a few saying we should not be friends with our children, and others stating that there should be a balance between parenting and friendship. I share what my opinion was, and how I see things a little differently after doing some research into the topic. Listen to find out what I learned from reading a few articles on the subject matter and what majority of child psychologists and specialists have to say.
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In this episode Dr. Ijeoma Kola shares about her approach to parenting her toddler long-distance. Ijeoma talks about the decision for her family to maintain residences in two countries (Kenya and America), which takes her away from her son for a few weeks at a time. We discuss why mothers are reprimanded for prioritizing their careers, whereas fathers aren't. Ijeoma also shares what caused her to feel Mom Guilt and practical tips to mothers who may have to move long-distance in order to push their careers/education further.
Follow and find out more about Dr. Ijeoma at www.ijeomakola.com and on social media @ijeomakola. Check out her nonprofit Cohort Sistas at www.cohortsistas.com and on social media @cohortsistas
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In this episode I speak with Titi Sule about her work as an author, and helping her seven year-old son become a first-time author! Titi shares how her son came about to writing a book on his own, her initial hesitation, working with him to edit and eventually publish his book! Listen to hear some practical tips on how to foster creativity and learning within young children.
You can find Titi online at her website: https://tzsonline.com and check out some of her work below:
Zaki & Zoltan Adventures - Books and Youtube Channel
Also order her son, Zaki's book The Man Who Went to the Moon
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We have all heard the phrase, "It takes a village to raise a child." It is an African proverb that speaks to the community or collective action of people in raising children. According to Wikipedia, "[it] means that an entire community of people must provide for and interact positively with children for those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy environment." Essentially, parenting involves more than just the parents.
In this episode, I share 10 places where you can find people to be a part of your own parenting village!
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In this episode I share about how coparenting has gone so far. I share candidly about some of the harder times, including periods when we couldn't stand to talk to each other (hello BLOCK button, LOL!). I also talk about how things are faring currently, and my ultimate wish for our coparenting relationship.
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In this episode, my second-time guest, Ebube gives us a life update! Since she first appeared on the podcast as a Single Mom, Ebube is now married and shares what her thought-process and journey was like as she navigated dating again. She answers questions about what she was looking for, how quickly she introduced her daughter to her now-husband, whether her daughter's father had any input or was informed prior to her getting married and more! She also shares advice to the single mother who may feel like she's damaged goods and should "just accept anyone that's willing to look at you."
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In this episode I share my thoughts on child support - paying child support and also requesting child support from the non-custodial parent. I talk about why some men may view child support in a negative light and I touch briefly on why all parties involved (whoever participated in the babymaking) should work to provide for their child[ren].
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In most African cultures, having just one child is seen as irregular, atypical or maybe even lowkey taboo. Typically, couples are encouraged to have multiple children in the hopes/belief that when you get older, you will have many children to take care of you. Unfortunately, a lot of times, the ability to take care of children financially, emotionally, physically, etc does not seem to be a part of the conversation.
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It's no secret that women stand the risk of being penalized career-wise when they become mothers. According to the Harvard Business Review, "Evidence from a variety of countries reveals that the longer new mothers are away from paid work, the less likely they are to be promoted, move into management, or receive a pay raise once their leave is over. They are also at greater risk of being fired or demoted. Length of leave can be a factor in the perceptions of co-workers as well – women who take longer leaves are often seen as less committed to their jobs than women who take much shorter leaves. This trade-off undercuts a major goal of legislating national parental leave policies: ensuring that women don’t have to choose between motherhood and career success."
In this episode, I speak with Millie Malum, founder of Merging Parenthood and she shed light on how to prepare for your maternity leave, how far in advance to start getting ready, how you can develop yourself during maternity leave, the motherhood penalty and much more.
Check out Merging Parenthood on their website and Instagram for more information on merging parenthood and work.
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Third time guest Tomisin shares how she and her family caught covid, her symptoms and her recovery in this episode.
Please note that neither of us are medical professionals or scientists. For up to date information about Covid-19, feel free to visit the CDC website or WHO website.
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