One baby alone is already enough, so when you’re a thriving mom of 6 during an entire pandemic, you ought to be praised. Today’s episode features Onnie Michalsky, Licensed therapist and Life & Wellness Coach for Supermoms who have lost themselves under their mom hats.
A lot of moms are fed up with mom guilt and neglecting themselves until everyone else is happy. But where do we even start? What would I even do if I take a break, plus what if someone needs me? These are raging thoughts constantly going through many mom’s heads and they are simply dying to get unstuck from this cycle. Once she had it with mom guilt, and even resentment, Onnie decided enough was enough and completely shifted her busy life as a mom of 6 to give herself the breaks she needed, and show up better for her loved ones and social circles. If a mom of 6 in 2022 can do it, why can’t you?
You should not have to feel guilty about doing things for yourself or feel guilty for asking for help. It does not make you a bad mom at all. So let’s demolish that narrative that we have to be busy and do all the things to be a good mom . Sounds like something that hits home? Grab your pen and paper because this episode has some great tips for taking your life back as a mom. Have a listen!
Here are the main points discussed in Season 1 Episode 4:
● How putting herself on her to-do list, discovering exercises that were right for her and eating better made a huge difference in how she showed up- simply being a better mom and role model, being in a better mood
● How having her own self-care already established, made her last child the easiest to handle compared to her other 5 kids.
● Helping moms hang up their keys and just relax because contrary to popular belief, “not having time” is not the root of not maximizing breaks or self care because moms make time for everything else all the time. + observing the possibility that moms seemingly don’t consider themselves worthy enough to focus on their own needs.
● Using CBT to shift the beliefs- the perfectionism, the people pleasing and unrealistic expectations, self doubt… all the things preventing moms from making time for themselves.
● The struggle of not knowing how to ask for help because we were not taught how due to societal pressure that makes us internalize, reveal our need for control and fear of being vulnerable enough to ask, to prove our worthiness and that we can do it.
● Advising how moms who are new to being self aware and journaling can begin to reframe their minds by first recognizing what they need help
● The isolation created by superwoman/supermom syndrome from overextension because people see that you seem to have it all together and question whether you even need help when in reality we’re sometimes falling apart on the inside to keep up the facade.
● By creating margins for your life, relationships with friends, kids and your spouse noticeably improve.
● The 5 Pillars of Self-care and being intentional yet patient with it. From the Physical, Emotional & mental health to the Spiritual, Intellectual and Social.
● Using scheduling and time blocking but not overbooking or overscheduling.
Free resource: 15 Self-care Practices You Can Do Under 15 Minutes for busy moms and those new to the discovery journey required to start. momswithoutcapes.com/momlifebelike
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