Hi everyone and welcome back to another episode of Modern Malayali!
We've all heard that question, from aunties, uncles, parents, friends, and sometimes even from complete strangers at weddings. But what is it really like being on the receiving end of that pressure, especially as a Malayali guy?
In this episode, Johan and I talk about what that really feels like, watching your friends, even the younger ones, getting engaged or married, while you're still trying to make it past the first or second call with someone.
We chat about how our generation views marriage differently compared to our parents, and how the expectation for men to be the primary provider is still a thing in our community.
We also dig into some of the challenges of finding a match within the community, specifically how the geography and religion filters almost automatically eliminate so many potential prospects. Because let's be honest, in the Malayali Christian world, Catholic girls usually want Catholic guys, and crossing those lines isn't always easy.
We also talk about the lessons that come with this process. About having the right mindset, putting in effort, and being willing to engage actively in the process.
It’s a heartfelt, funny, and honest look at what modern marriage pressure feels like for our generation.
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About the Modern Malayali podcast:
Have you ever wondered how other Malayalis live their lives outside of Kerala?
I have. I've always been curious about how other Malayalis navigate their culture while living very modern, Western lives. I’m talking about the influence our culture has had on the decisions and choices we've made — from choosing a career path to choosing a life partner, from how we talk about mental health to how we spend our free time.
This is a podcast where Malayalis from all over the world can connect and share stories.
We’re all in this together, and I’m sure many of us have had similar experiences. Hopefully, one of these episodes will inspire or reassure you that you're not alone in this.
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Music by Kalpesh Ajugia from Pixabay.