Ever wondered how a fiercely independent academic from Boston could end up embracing the traditional role of a Japanese housewife? Tracy Slater, acclaimed author of The Good Shufu: Finding Love, Self, and Home on the Far Side of the World, joins us to unravel her incredible journey. From teaching in men's prisons to becoming a shufu in Japan, Tracy's story is one of transformation, self-discovery, and unexpected love. In this episode, we explore how Tracy navigated the logistics of moving to Japan, adapting to a new culture, and balancing her career shift with the demands of a new lifestyle. Tracy shares her experiences of culture shock, her willingness to let life shape her path, and the adjustments she made to embrace new roles and responsibilities. Discover how Tracy and her husband, Toru, balanced their different cultural backgrounds and overcame the challenges of living between two countries. We dive into the emotional and practical aspects of her journey, including caring for her terminally ill father-in-law, her efforts to conceive a child, and the impact of these experiences on her sense of self. Tracy’s memoir captures the irony and profundity of her mid-40s transformation, offering insights into intercultural marriages and the subtleties of non-homogeneous social relationships. She shares heartwarming and humorous anecdotes about adapting to her new life, including a memorable story from her first week in Japan. Join us for a deeper understanding of how culture shapes relationships and provides valuable lessons for anyone navigating mixed identities or intercultural marriages. Stay tuned for future discussions on Tracy's upcoming book about mixed families in America's World War II concentration camps.   More about Tracy: www.tracyslater.com   Tracy’s Mixed-Marriage Memoir: The Good Shufu: Finding Love, Self, and Home on the Far Side of the World   Patreon! https://patron.podbean.com/mixunderstoodpod    Follow Mixunderstood! Instagram: @mixunderstoodpod Facebook: @mixunderstoodpod Twitter/X: @Mix_understood Tik Tok: @mixunderstood.pod   Contact: Email: mixunderstoodpod@gmail.com   Music by Mathias Kunzli www.mathiaskunzli.com   Patreon! https://patron.podbean.com/mixunderstoodpod