Being the One is a big deal in the sense one steps out of the comfort zone of not being the One ..to being the One - the One who takes action and turns something around for the better - and that sometimes involves stepping into the discomfort of the comfortable. Guilt could have one do things and also not do things, and recognising guilt as the reason or instigator of an action (or no action) helps identify the niggle that anybody could have resolved but nobody does. It takes something to be the nobody who gets comfortable enough to do the uncomfortable of not hurting anyone. Hurt is a sign of drama triad, and you/me/them/somebody gets hurts and its 'not my thing' to work on resolving the hurt so no-one no longer hurts is an uncomfortable.