In this conversation, Traver Boehm discusses the importance of creating dedicated spaces for men to engage in open conversations about their experiences and challenges. He shares insights from his own journey through darkness retreats with a discussion on what occurs in this type of retreat, emphasizing the profound personal growth that can occur when one confronts their ego and past traumas. The discussion highlights the significance of community support, the integration of experiences, and the role of humor in coping with grief and pain. Ultimately, Traver encourages men to embrace vulnerability as a strength and to find meaning in their struggles. In this conversation, Traver and Miles explore the profound themes of caregiving, presence, self-betrayal, and the heroic effort required to live authentically. They discuss the importance of being present with those who are suffering, the necessity of breaking the cycle of self-betrayal, and the courage it takes to surrender to life's challenges. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of building a relationship with oneself and the power of conscious self-dialogue in fostering personal growth and emotional intelligence.
Coaching and Counseling with Miles
00:00 Introduction and Context of the Conversation
02:58 The Importance of Men's Spaces
05:41 Darkness Retreats: The Journey Begins
08:55 The Challenges of Extended Darkness Retreats
11:41 Experiences and Insights from the Darkness
14:58 The Role of Ego and Surrender
17:44 Integration and Post-Retreat Reflections
37:28 Transforming Pain into Purpose
39:09 Exploring the Depths of the Soul
41:51 The Struggles of Men and the Path to Healing
45:30 Finding Meaning in Rock Bottom
47:58 The Absurdity of Life's Challenges
50:32 Grief, Humor, and the Human Experience
52:40 Lessons from Hospice Care
55:48 The Heroic Effort of Self-Discovery
01:05:43 The Price of Entry for Transformation
01:09:14 Finding Authenticity in the Dark
01:11:44 The Courage to Surrender
01:13:51 Dialoguing with Darkness
01:17:09 Returning to Self
01:20:23 Building a Relationship with Yourself
01:23:52 Creating a Supportive Environment
