"I was much more able to access that vitality and that passion and joy just through being alive. Not because anything incredible had happened, but just from being alive." In my early adulthood, I became really good at tolerating stress and distress—a skill that served me well at the time. But what if that excessive tolerance is now draining your vitality, joy, and life satisfaction?We all have blind spots, that is the nature of being human, and in this episode I open up about my personal journey through perimenopause and midlife, sharing my own blind spots and how I came to see things with fresh eyes.We explore the fine line between healthy distress tolerance and what I call "maladaptive tolerance," where psychological endurance starts to hold you back.We discuss the difference between resilience and chronic distress tolerance, and how it might be keeping you stuck, limiting your ability to make meaningful changes in your life.We also examine where you might tolerate too much, missing opportunities for greater vitality and passion.This episode is all about regulating your tolerance to distress and bringing it back into the zone of vitality.Ready for an eye-opening conversation? Let’s dive into the episode, and let me know what you think! I'd love to hear if you have a similar experience.     Follow Meegan on Instagram here   Join the waitlist for The Midlife Upgrade Course:https://meegancare.co.nz/course/   Please note: The content of this podcast does not substitute or constitute medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or qualified healthcare provider.