Why does dating feel so much harder for men today? In this episode, Ted and Patrick dive into the hidden struggles men face in the age of dating apps and swipe culture — from feeling invisible and overlooked, to battling confusing “rules” and social atrophy that’s making real connection almost impossible. They break down why dating apps, instead of helping, might actually be making us worse at connecting — and why so many men feel lost and unsure of who to be in modern dating. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by ghosting, “confirm the date” pressures, or just the overwhelming noise of digital romance, this episode is for you. Finally, they also explore how distorted ideas of masculinity are shaping men’s experiences — and what real, meaningful connection could look like in today’s world. Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Show Notes: slutstack article referenced in the episode https://sluts.substack.com/p/play-stupid-games-win-stupid-prizesJohn Mulaney credit WIRED 2018 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psbIKH5tqiM Timestamps: 00:00 Welcome Intro 00:11 Episode Intro 01:06 Challenges of Real-Life Connection in the Dating World 03:07 The Decline of Dating Apps and Social Engagement 07:11 Why Everyone Feels Like an NPC 12:47 Social Media Controversies in Dating Culture 17:00 Navigating Compatibility and Blind Dates 18:38 The Role of Community in Dating 22:20 Masculinity and the Modern Man 26:00 Gentleness and Emotional Intelligence 30:00 Creating Opportunities for Connection 33:46 Respecting Boundaries and Self-Worth 35:40 The Human Connection in Online Dating 36:44 Tate, the Manosphere, and Faux Masculinity 38:40 Our Real Enemy: Simplistic, Misogynistic Thinking 40:00 What Is a Good Man Anymore? 40:53 Make Yourself the Product — Then Choose Wisely 41:03 Let People Fail You — Then Set Boundaries 42:11 Know Your Value, But Stay Humble 43:27 Do Men Mature Into Tenderness? 44:22 Personal Development and Relationships 46:40 Understanding Fatherhood and Self-Forgiveness 48:26 Finding Role Models and Intentional Living 51:05 Outro 51:38 Broll (Exploring Celebrity Crushes and Kinks, fun vs funny)