In this episode, Ted and Patrick unpack the blurry line between confidence and arrogance. They explore what it means to build real confidence—not just perform it—and how to root it in genuine self-worth. Drawing from their experiences as public voices in football commentary, they ask: How do you know when you’re veering into arrogance? What does it take to stay grounded while still backing yourself? From handling criticism to building inner systems for self-belief, this is a sharp, honest conversation about identity, feedback, and the work of becoming truly self-assured. Show Notes: The Transfer Flow newsletter referenced in the episode https://www.thetransferflow.com/p/be-intellectually-honest-but-f-ck-a-hater-89d0 Follow us on our Socials: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLzsGH4hM9TxHC4hHPvgMJw X: https://x.com/ManDownPodcast Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:lm4shifbvs6k63eb54k2gmho Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mandown.podcast/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mandownpodcast Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:43 Why Patrick and Ted’s Football Takes Get Called Arrogant 02:48 Defining Self-Worth, Confidence and Arrogance 04:13 Why Ted Responded to Arrogance Criticism: Cultural Clashes & Track Record Explained 09:28 Patrick Shares His Perspective on Being Labeled Arrogant  11:28 Ted’s Reply to Criticism — Featured in the TransferFlow Newsletter14:58 Abilities vs. Qualities: The Arrogance Line 16:00 What does it mean to be self-confident? 19:38 The Roots of Ted’s Self-Confidence 22:06 It’s Okay to Fail — Your Worth Isn’t Defined by One Outcome 24:30 Confidence grows from self-worth 27:00 Expertise vs. Overconfidence 29:35 We learn self-worth at school, but not how to explore it. 29:50 We all share the same journey of failure and growth. 30:18 How Patrick earned the right to claim more confidence31:50 Ted’s Advice on Confidence  35:20 Patrick’s Take: Internal Qualities and Self-Worth 38:38 Social Media: Where Toxicity Meets Opportunity 41:40 Low Self-Worth: Influences & Inner Voice 46:30 Two Paths After Arrogance: Denial or Growth 47:40 Ted on Dismissing Earned Praise and Compliments 52:39 Why Some People Struggle to Accept Compliments 55:00 Patrick’s Struggle With Praise and Self-Worth 56:40 How to Respond When Your Partner Rejects a Compliment57:30 Why Working on Your Self-Worth Matters 58:52 Patrick’s Thoughts on Being Called Arrogant 1:02:19 Ted on Constantly Growing His Expertise 1:04:34 Patrick on Saying ‘I Don’t Know’ 1:07:20 Tips for Rebuilding Self-Talk and Setting Boundaries 1:16:55 Wrap-Up & Reflections 1:19:12 Outro  1:19:27 Broll