What makes breakups so difficult? Do you have to hate your ex to move on?

In the season one finale, Ivy and I discuss the reality of going through a breakup, the healing process, getting closure, and “moving on.” We talk about experiencing grief, shame, and anger, leaning on our faith and friends, and the importance of forgiveness.

We also dive into false assumptions about breakups, myths around Christian dating, and the pressure of finding “the one.”

Whether you or a friend are going through a breakup, have gone through one that’s been hard to get over, or have never been in a relationship but are scared about the idea of going through a breakup — this is for you. ❤️‍🩹

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REFERENCES

Bible verses:

• Psalm 34:18
• Philippians 4:7
• Psalm 25:10
• Psalm 139

Podcasts:

• ep. 05: being single is not a disease – Making Space
• The psychology of breakups – The Psychology of your 20s
• We Found Love, Part 1: I Met My Husband in Prison – Love Letters (Ivy’s podcast series with the Boston Globe)

Lupita Nyong’o’s Instagram post on heartbreak

Book: Total Forgiveness by R. T. Kendall heartbreak

TIMESTAMPS

(00:00) Intro

(02:27) Conversation kickoff

(05:50) What’s hard?

(23:29) False assumptions about breakups

(46:15) What helps?

(01:08:06) Advice on “moving on”

(01:19:31) An interlude on the myth of Christian dating and finding “the one”

(01:26:48) Additional advice and encouragement

(01:35:44) Final thoughts & reflections on closure

(01:44:15) Outro