#161 Haley joins Kim and Jena for a powerful conversation about what it means to feel secure — not in your job, your health, your accomplishments, or your relationship status — but in Christ alone. With honesty and humor, Haley shares how God met her in the middle of achievement, illness, and change, proving that His presence is more satisfying than anything the world promises.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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Please note: The book is currently transitioning between publishers. If it isn't available yet, please continue to check back. It will be available soon.
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#160 Being single can come with real challenges — from loneliness to questions of self-worth to the tension of waiting on God’s timing. In this week’s episode, Kim and Charlotte sit down with Shivani, one of their seasoned single co-workers, to talk honestly about what makes singleness hard and how she’s learned to navigate through those things.
Shiv opens up about:
• Loneliness — and what it looks like to come to God honestly instead of avoiding Him
• Self-Worth — how to stop settling for “scraps” of attention and anchor your identity in God’s delight
• Waiting — how to trust God’s timing, live fully now, and embrace the life He’s given you
If you’ve ever wrestled with unmet desires or wondered if God sees you, this episode will remind you that He does — and that He’s writing a beautiful story in your life, even in the waiting.
Listen in for honest stories, practical encouragement, and a reminder that you don’t have to wait for marriage to live a full, faith-filled life.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
None Like Him: 10 Ways God is Different Than Us by Jen Wilkin
The Attributes of God by A.W. Tozer
Some of the verses on Shiv's scripture ring:
Zephaniah 3:17
Galatians 4:7
Isaiah 49:16
Isaiah 43:4
Ephesians 1:4
Ephesians 2:10
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Repost of Episode #117: We all love a good wedding story--but what happens after the honeymoon? In this honest and hope-filled episode, Logan and his wife, Lindsey, open up about the highs, lows, and unexpected lessons from their first year of marriage.
If you're single and dreaming of marriage, this is your chance to peek behind the curtain. You'll hear what surprised them most, what helped them grow, and how God used that first year to strengthen their love.
If you want to love your future husband well--even before you meet him--this conversation will help you build realistic expectations and prepare your heart for the real thing.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Episode #63 When a Social Media Spark Leads to Marriage (Logan and Lindsey's love story)
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#159 Should you pray for your future husband? In this episode, Charlotte and Kim delve into one of the most frequently asked questions by single women. Together, they explore what the Bible says about prayer, look at examples of people who prayed for deeply personal desires, and unpack how these principles apply to praying for marriage.
You’ll hear:
• Whether Scripture encourages us to pray for a spouse
• Do motives matter?
• The benefits of praying for your future husband—and how it shapes you
• Practical ways to start praying now, even before you meet him
If you’ve ever wondered “Is it okay to ask God for a husband?” or “What if He wants me to be single?”—this conversation will encourage your heart and point you toward God’s wisdom, His timing, and His love for you.
Because around here, we believe you can love your husband before you even have one. 💕
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
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#158 Waiting can feel exhausting—whether it’s waiting for a husband, an answered prayer, or simply life to move forward. In this episode, Kim sits down with Jena and Charlotte to unpack Isaiah 40:31 and discover what it really means to “wait on the Lord.”
Together, they explore how biblical waiting isn’t passive, but an active choice to entwine your heart with God’s purposes—trusting Him to renew your strength and lift you above your circumstances. You’ll hear honest reflections about impatience, comparison, and control, as well as practical rhythms that help you “ride God’s thermals” instead of wearing yourself out.
If you’ve ever felt weary, overlooked, or tired of waiting, this conversation will encourage you with fresh perspective and give you practical steps to keep trusting God in your season of waiting.
Because loving your husband before you even have one often begins with learning how to love and trust God first.
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Repost of Episode #84: Ever feel like life isn’t quite what you pictured? Maybe you’re walking through a transition, waiting for things to get easier, or simply wanting to grow in contentment where you are right now. You’re not alone—we get it! That’s why we invited Megan Coye to join us and share her top 3 practical tips for learning how to love where you’re at—no matter your season.
#156 In this final episode of our Good Guys of Summer series, we’re sitting down with Corey—a dad of four daughters—who’s giving us a rare look into the heart of a “girl dad.” From sweet one-on-one daddy-daughter dates to how he prays specifically for each of his girls, Corey shares the kind of wisdom, encouragement, and truth every young woman needs to hear.
Whether you grew up with a loving dad, a complicated relationship, or no dad at all, this conversation will leave you encouraged, grounded in truth, and reminded that you are deeply loved and valued.
So grab your coffee, pull up a chair, and listen in as a girl dad “spills the secrets” on what he hopes every young woman knows—before she ever says “I do.”
Resources mentioned in this episode:
A Praying Life, by Paul Miller
Listen to Tonya on Episode #15 and Episode #106
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#156 What does Proverbs have to say about relationships—and how can this ancient wisdom help you avoid modern-day relational messes?
In this episode of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, Kim and returning co-host Leah sit down with pastor, author, and clean-comedy fan Jamie Trussell for a practical and hilarious conversation.
Jamie shares four timeless (and surprisingly convicting) Proverbs-based tips for wiser relationships. You’ll laugh, reflect, and walk away with real wisdom you can apply now—even before you’re married.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form
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#155 We're in our series "The Good Guys of Summer," introducing you to men who are pursuing God and giving us an inside look at what really matters to them.
Ever wonder what really stands out to a godly man when he thinks about who he might marry someday? In this honest and eye‑opening conversation, Dave—who mentors college guys in their faith—shares four qualities he tells them to look for in a woman. If you’ve ever questioned whether the choices you’re making now matter for your future marriage, this episode will both challenge and encourage you. 💛
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#154 What if the kind of guy you hope to marry someday is already out there… quietly stacking chairs after a church meeting, helping a friend move, or giving someone a ride home?
In today’s episode, we’re talking with a single guy who’s learning to live a life of service—and why that matters more than you might think. Whether you’re hoping to spot character in someone else or grow it in yourself, this conversation will inspire you to start loving your future husband by becoming someone who serves like Jesus—right now.
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
Listen to the audio version of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One on Spotify or wherever you listen to audio books.
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#153 We're in our "Good Guys of Summer" series, and in this episode, we sit down with Danny to talk about something all of us wrestle with: patience. What does it look like to wait well—not just in dating, but in every area of life? How do we trust God when His timing feels frustrating or unclear? You’ll hear real-life encouragement, a few honest struggles, and some biblical wisdom that will help you stay grounded in seasons of waiting.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/
To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders
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#152: In this episode of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, we’re sitting down with Matt, one of our “Good Guys of Summer,” to talk honestly about singleness—from a guy’s perspective. If you’re single, love Jesus, and hope to be married someday, this conversation will encourage you to see your single years not as a waiting room but as a time of purpose.
Matt shares why singleness isn’t second place, how culture often sells us a smaller story, and what it really looks like to trust God with your future love story. He talks openly about the tension between desire and surrender, the freedom this season brings, and how to make the most of it—all with wisdom, humility, and just enough humor.
If you’ve ever wondered if God sees you, if singleness is really a gift, or if there are still good guys out there—this episode is for you.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/
To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders
To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form
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#151: Feel like the kitchen is intimidating?
You're not alone--but it doesn't have to stay that way! In this episode, Hailey (star of "Cooking at Kaleo") joins us to share simple, motivating tips to help you grow more confident cooking at home.
Whether you want to eat healthier, save money, or just feel more capable, this conversation will give you a great place to start.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Cooking at Kaleo YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@haileypoints8825
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/
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#150 Graduating from college is exciting… and overwhelming. You’re stepping into a whole new world—maybe a new job, new city, or new stage of life. In this episode, Kim and Char welcome Madison to help you launch strong. From building spiritual habits in a busy schedule to finding real community (even if it means sitting by strangers at church), this conversation is packed with practical wisdom for single women in transition.
Whether you’re feeling lost, lonely, or just ready for what’s next, this episode will help you root your identity in Christ, take initiative in your new season, and grow into the kind of woman who thrives—and loves her husband before she even has one.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/
To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders
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#149 You’re single, you don’t have kids yet… so why should you care about parenting?
In this episode, Kim and Leah sit down with Rose—a mom of four—to talk about what single women can do now to prepare for motherhood in the future.
From learning the character of God to spending time with families you admire, this conversation is full of practical wisdom and real-life insights. Plus, Leah (who is about to become a mom herself!) gets some firsthand advice.
Whether motherhood is years away or just around the corner, this episode will help you love your future kids before you even have them.
Related Episodes:
#18 Sarah's Episode on Marriage and Family
#86 Enjoying God (ABCs of God's Character)
#51 Leah as a single girl
#110 Leah's Engaged!
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#148 What if you could love your future husband before you even meet him? In this special episode, Kim and OG co-host Adrienne sit down with Kim’s soon-to-be daughter-in-law, Kinsey, to talk about how she lived out the principles of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One—long before she knew she’d one day marry Kim’s son!
Kinsey shares her journey from chasing identity in sports to finding fulfillment in Christ, the intentional choices she made during her single years, and the prayers she didn’t even realize were being answered. From battling doubts about her standards to trusting God’s timing, Kinsey’s story is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and a beautiful reminder that God writes the best love stories.
If you’re a single woman wondering how to prepare for a future marriage while staying faithful to God right where you are, this episode is for you!
Key Takeaways:
✨ Ways to love your future husband before you meet him
✨ The power of spending time with God and trusting His character
✨ Why surrounding yourself with godly women is a game-changer
✨ The importance of staying faithful where God has placed you
No matter where you are in your journey, this conversation will encourage you to walk in faith, trust God’s plan, and embrace the season you’re in.
Listen now and be inspired to love well—before “I do”!
Related Resources:
For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit www.kimvollendorf.com.
To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/
To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders
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#147 Emotions—do you ignore them or let them run the show?In this episode, we dive into why learning to process emotions with God is one of the most important areas to grow in as a single woman. Whether you tend to bottle up your feelings or let them dictate your decisions, understanding how to handle them biblically can transform not only your relationship with God but also your future marriage.
Join Kim and Jena as Leah unpacks:
• The two common ways people deal with emotions (and the pitfalls of both!)
• What the Bible teaches about emotions and how Jesus modeled them
• A simple process to help you name, feel, and surrender your emotions to God
• How unprocessed emotions can affect your spiritual, mental, and even physical health
If you want to grow in emotional maturity, deepen your intimacy with God, and prepare for a thriving marriage—this episode is for you!
Listen now and learn how to love your future husband before you even meet him by stewarding your emotions well today.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
Steps to Process Our Emotions:
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#146 What does it mean to have faith in Christ? How does it relate to relationships and marriage? What will help your faith thrive in the seasons ahead of you?
Listen in as co-hosts Charlotte and Jena sit down with Kim as she reflects on her 40-year spiritual journey and shares candid insights on maintaining a strong faith in all of life's challenges.
Whether you're navigating the complexities of modern dating, seeking purpose in singleness, or striving to deepen your spiritual walk, Kim's experiences offer practical wisdom and encouragement for your journey.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
#86 Growing Closer to God
#68 Processing Your Hurts
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What happens when you have two single women and two married women discussing important topics for single women?
You have the Season 8 Podcast Team!
In this episode, you'll get to know our newest podcast team member, and you'll be able to listen to our discussion on the loudest, most influential voice in each of our lives.
Click here to find out more about the bookmarks mentioned on the podcast.
#145 A lasting, enjoyable marriage doesn't just happen--it starts with how you date. If you follow the same dating patterns as the culture, you'll likely end up in the same place: frustration, heartbreak, and disappointment. But what if there's a better way?
In this episode, Kim and Jena sit down with Colin and Karisa to uncover three common dating pitfalls that can derail your path to a lasting, God-honoring marriage. Get ready for real talk, practical wisdom, and the kind of advice that could change your love life forever!
Related Episodes:
#28 Setting Boundaries in Dating
#28B Bonus Boundaries Episode
#107 K-I-S-S-I-N-G
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#144: For years, Anna convinced herself that love wasn't something she needed--playing it cool, staying unattached, and pretending she didn't care. But deep down, she longed for a real, God-honoring relationship.
As friends around her found love, got engaged, and started families, she found herself battling jealousy instead of joy...until one day she made a decision to love love even when it wasn't happening to her. Join us as Anna shares four ways she's been able to do that.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
For a copy of Leah'sBoyfriend Devo, please email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com.
Related Episodes:
#82: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 1)
#114: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 2)
#2: Is it Love-If, Love-Because, or Love-Regardless?
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