Welcome to this episode where we dive into the topic of conscious relating and the importance of asking for what you need in a relationship.
We talk about our experiences with being in right relationship, setting boundaries, and doing the inner work necessary for growth. We discuss the value of standards in relationships, the process of working through disagreements, and the importance of recognizing your partner's needs during heightened emotional states.
Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on conscious relating and the importance of intentional communication in all types of relationships.
In this episode:
Diving into conscious relating and asking for what you need in relationship
What Rachael believes a conscious relationship is, whether with a person or something you are connecting to; being intentional and present
A conscious relationship is not void of disagreement and is not all rainbows and butterflies all the time
A conscious relationship is being willing to do the shadow work
The process of being in right relationship between Rachael and Justin
How we have a fundamental value of growth and are willing to learn all the various things about the other person
The value of having standards and some of Rachael’s standards around spirituality in relationship
The early disagreements around the language of spirituality and our differing understandings of what it meant to us
Holding different perspectives in relationship
The amount of learning and important difficult conversations that are required early on in relationships
Setting boundaries in relationships and expression of emotions
Our boundaries around disagreement and not “fighting”
Working through disagreements by understanding that the outcome is for us to come out the otherside together
The need for inner work individually in relationships
Justin unlearning people-pleasing and asking for support around the house
The importance of understanding the roles in your relationship and recognizing when there is a need to shift the roles
When you don’t communicate your needs you will become resentful
Asking for what you need is deeply important
Rachael’s love languages and Justin learning how to meet those needs
Navigating your partner’s needs during heightened emotional states
Recognizing that most of the time heightened emotion is not directed at you
Being there for a partner in a dissociated state (Freeze response)
Learning your partner’s trauma responses and their history in order to be there for them
Communicating without blaming and shaming
The need for vulnerability to reach intimacy
How you are in relationship is how you are in relationship with life
Asking your partner to rise up and meet you where you want to be
Having the hard conversations about changing, and building a beautiful relationship through that
What Rachael would say to someone who keeps ending up with the same type of person that isn’t the right fit.
Becoming the type of person that you want to attract into your life.
Getting clear on what your needs are, what your values are, what you like and what you don’t like
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