Ever wondered why eldest daughters have spreadsheets for feelings and backup plans for everyone’s birthdays? In this episode, we get way too real about our BDE aka Big Daughter Energy!!  Why do eldest daughters end up running family group chats like Fortune 500s? Is dating younger siblings just emotional babysitting with better playlists? And can we ever stop trying to fix everyone else’s problems without feeling guilty about it?

It’s funny, raw, and way too relatable — part therapy sessions, part guilty confessions.. Is our BDE a personality type, a public service, or both? Press play and find out.

(02:12) The Eldest-Daughter Sorority No one Signed up for

(04:08) Taylor Swift shows up to the eldest-daughter party… two years late

(06:13) “Hi, I’m 12 and the family therapist”

(09:45) When you start mediating your parents’ marriage for sport

(12:31) Cake orders, calendars, and carrying the emotional Wi-Fi of the house

(14:22) Dating younger siblings: therapy or thrill ride?

(16:15) Middle-child energy: the chaos you didn’t plan for

(20:18) The Let them Theory & Learning to Loosen Control

(31:01) Type-A Brains, Structure, and the Cities That Match Our Nervous Systems

(42:11) Health crises, control issues, and the eldest daughter’s medical degree

(48:04) Unlearning perfection: the art of doing less and caring less

(50:47) The soft spot: eldest-daughter friendships that keep us sane