In this episode of Love Conquers, Kaz and Matt dive deep into one of the trickiest, yet most important, skills in any relationship: handling conflict—especially when neurodiversity is part of the dynamic.
When one or both partners are neurodivergent, misunderstandings can pop up faster than you can say "what did you mean by that?" Different processing speeds, communication styles, emotional regulation challenges, and sensory overload can turn a simple disagreement into a full-blown storm if left unchecked.
Kaz and Matt share their own experiences from nearly 30 years together, pulling back the curtain on how autism, ADHD, anxiety, and other neurodiverse traits can impact conflict—and, more importantly, how they learned to navigate it without burning everything to the ground.
From the importance of cool-down periods and clarity over assumption, to building scripts and systems that keep emotions from running wild, this episode is packed with practical tools, honest reflections, and a whole lot of “we learned the hard way” wisdom.
Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself, love someone who is, or just want better strategies for handling conflict with more grace (and less accidental emotional warfare), this conversation offers hope, humor, and hard-won lessons.
Topics Include:
Why standard conflict advice doesn’t always fit neurodiverse couples
Emotional regulation: how to recognize the "flood zone" before it hits
Practical scripts and boundaries that actually work
Repairing after ruptures (because perfection isn't the goal—connection is)
How fighting fair can actually deepen trust and intimacy
Conflict is inevitable. Rupture is inevitable. But so is repair—when you have the tools, the compassion, and the commitment to choose each other over and over again.
Tune in for a raw, real, and (as always) slightly chaotic conversation about fighting with love, and loving through the fight.