If your marriage is unfulfilling and your husband or wife is refusing to engage in a healthy way, then you need to take responsibility for its recovery and lead by example. If our marriages have been unhappy for some time, it’s likely that many of the things we already tried did not work, and it’s probably time that we try something new. As the old saying goes, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. It will become increasingly difficult for a lazy or mean-spirited spouse to dictate the terms of your marriage if you are physically, emotionally and spiritually fit. If you are consistently meeting their needs and they continue to dismiss yours, then I would argue you have a martial obligation to protest. In a healthy marriage each spouse keeps the other on their toes. You’re meant to inspire and support each other to grow and develop as individuals so that your union becomes a force stronger than the sum of its parts. You’re meant to be a team.