In a sex positive marriage, both partners experience greater feelings of intimacy and aliveness. These marriages are filled with more joy, connection, excitement and laughter than their sexually dull counter parts. Developing and maintaining a sex positive attitude is important for the quality of not only our marriages, but also every other aspect of our health as human beings. To develop this sexual positivity, some of us will need to embark on a journey if we haven't yet done so. Perhaps a journey of healing, increased awareness, of analysis, and of self-acceptance. We might have to ask ourselves why we feel so negatively about this aspect of our nature. We might have to address our own hang-ups or deal with past negative sexual experiences. We might have to consider what the people around us taught us to think about sex. We might also have to question the cultural narrative around what sex in marriage really looks like and have the courage to create something entirely different for ourselves.