My name is Dr. Michelle Choi, and I'm an Internal Medicine doctor in Santa Cruz, CA. I left my medical career in September, 2020, to become a podcaster. I practiced medicine in the inpatient and outpatient settings for over 10 years, before making the major life decision to leave my traditional career as a doctor. I do not believe that we're doing enough to get to the underlying causes of what is causing illness. And the way in which healthcare is structured in our nation, if doctors simply don't have the time to talk with our patients, or if it's much easier to get insurance coverage for a pill for depression rather than counseling, whom are we really helping? Why not do more than just putting a band-aid on the issue?
After years of frustration, I decided to leave the career I'd worked my whole life for, in search of what may contribute to our feeling whole. I believe that we all have the capacity to be who we really are, not just a whiff of who we are. And perhaps by being honest with ourselves, can we unlock the key to our own healing, and find our path to a meaningful life. Join me on the Lost or Found podcast, as we contemplate the components of true health. Be your true advocate! Dare to be inspired!!
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My name is Dr. Michelle Choi, and I'm an Internal Medicine doctor in Santa Cruz, CA. I left my medical career in September, 2020, to become a podcaster. I practiced medicine in the inpatient and outpatient settings for over 10 years, before making the major life decision to leave my traditional career as a doctor. I do not believe that we're doing enough to get to the underlying causes of what is causing illness. And the way in which healthcare is structured in our nation, if doctors simply don't have the time to talk with our patients, or if it's much easier to get insurance coverage for a pill for depression rather than counseling, whom are we really helping? Why not do more than just putting a band-aid on the issue?
After years of frustration, I decided to leave the career I'd worked my whole life for, in search of what may contribute to our feeling whole. I believe that we all have the capacity to be who we really are, not just a whiff of who we are. And perhaps by being honest with ourselves, can we unlock the key to our own healing, and find our path to a meaningful life. Join me on the Lost or Found podcast, as we contemplate the components of true health. Be your true advocate! Dare to be inspired!!
Ep. 106- Enmeshment and Being “Too Close” with Dr. Chris Fahrenbach
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2 years ago
Ep. 106- Enmeshment and Being “Too Close” with Dr. Chris Fahrenbach
Today we discuss Enmeshment based on Jennette McCurdy’s bestselling book I’m Glad My Mom Died. What can happen when perhaps...you’re too close.
When you think of childhood emotional trauma, one might think of neglect, but the opposite, being “too” close can lead to enmeshment trauma. A child can become the “parentified child”, where the child takes on caring for the parent’s emotional needs, such that their parents’ lives center around theirs, they are their parent’s best friend, their parent’s self worth is hinged on their child’s success, and they are guilted when they want less contact.
And enmeshment trauma can manifest as being afraid of conflict, difficulty in relationships, low self-esteem while deeply relying on approval of parents, and lack of self identity such that they do everything to keep others happy and “please” them. Does this sound like anyone you know? Unfortunately, I wonder if this is more common than not.
And who better to discuss this with, than our favorite clinical psychologist Dr. Chris Fahrenbach. She’s been on the show in the past, and I just LOVE her.
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My name is Dr. Michelle Choi, and I'm an Internal Medicine doctor in Santa Cruz, CA. I left my medical career in September, 2020, to become a podcaster. I practiced medicine in the inpatient and outpatient settings for over 10 years, before making the major life decision to leave my traditional career as a doctor. I do not believe that we're doing enough to get to the underlying causes of what is causing illness. And the way in which healthcare is structured in our nation, if doctors simply don't have the time to talk with our patients, or if it's much easier to get insurance coverage for a pill for depression rather than counseling, whom are we really helping? Why not do more than just putting a band-aid on the issue?
After years of frustration, I decided to leave the career I'd worked my whole life for, in search of what may contribute to our feeling whole. I believe that we all have the capacity to be who we really are, not just a whiff of who we are. And perhaps by being honest with ourselves, can we unlock the key to our own healing, and find our path to a meaningful life. Join me on the Lost or Found podcast, as we contemplate the components of true health. Be your true advocate! Dare to be inspired!!