Are you exhausted from constantly chasing relationships that never materialize?
What if the secret to finding love isn't about pursuing, but attracting?
In a raw, honest conversation between Joel Elston and Walt Thiessen, they unveiled the painful truth about modern dating: our desperate chase is precisely what drives potential partners away. The core message is devastatingly simple yet profound - neediness repels, while confidence attracts.
Joel shared a powerful teenage memory that perfectly illustrates this dynamic. When he stopped chasing a girl he was intensely interested in, she suddenly became interested in him. This wasn't manipulation, but a fundamental law of human attraction.
"When you chase something too hard, it runs from you," Joel explained. "If you want something too bad, you can't get it."
The conversation dove deep into the toxic dating landscape shaped by social media and dating apps. These platforms have created unrealistic expectations, with 90% of people chasing just 10% of potential partners. Young people are bombarded with impossible standards - men must be six feet tall, earn $400,000 annually, and look like supermodels.
But real connection isn't about superficial metrics. It's about authenticity, communication, and genuine self-confidence.
Joel emphasized that the energy of "lack" attracts more lack. When you're constantly chasing, you signal desperation. Instead, focus on building self-esteem and understanding your true worth.
Key strategies for breaking the chase cycle include: Stopping social media consumption, reframing negative internal dialogue, practicing mirror work, accepting compliments, and developing genuine self-confidence.
Communication emerged as the ultimate relationship superpower. As Walt noted, the ability to have difficult conversations lovingly is the "gold standard" for healthy relationships.
"If you aren't developing communication and connection from the very moment you're meeting somebody, you're already setting yourself up for failure," Walt passionately explained.
The most heartbreaking revelation? Many people are trapped in repetitive relationship patterns, dating the same type of person repeatedly, simply because they haven't addressed their subconscious programming.
Joel's advice is transformative: "The more self-confidence we have, the less likely we are to chase, and the more likely we are to feel good in the process."
This isn't just about dating - it's about understanding yourself, your worth, and the universal law of attraction. Stop chasing. Start attracting.
Your perfect relationship isn't about hunting. It's about becoming the person who naturally draws love toward them.
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