This isn’t a “how-to” episode. It’s more of a “come sit with us while we wrestle” kind of conversation, even with a phrase as cringe as, “It’s not you, it’s me”. We talk about friendships that both give life and drive us up the wall, kids who push every button and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes the problem isn’t them—it’s us. But not in the shame-filled, “I’m the worst” kind of way. More in the, “Wait . . . maybe my expectations are the real trigger here” kind of way. If you’ve ever asked yourself whether your reaction says more about your past than the person in front of you, you’ll feel right at home in this one.

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