A frank and fearless conversation about death, life, and what comes after—in every sense of the word. From the big existential questions like “What happens when you die?” to the deeply practical ones like “When is the right time to have sex again?” and “How do I change a tyre?”, this podcast explores the challenges and changes faced by widows, widowers, and anyone navigating life after loss.
Danny Painter lost her husband, Phil, of 17 years to a heart attack in their home in September 2023. Since then, she has been sharing her raw, real, and deeply personal story across social media and her radio show in South Africa.
Through unfiltered honesty, heartfelt conversations, and even a dash of humor, Life After Death offers a compassionate space to navigate grief, rediscover purpose, and embrace the next chapter—on your terms.
Because while loss changes everything, it doesn’t have to define who we become.
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A frank and fearless conversation about death, life, and what comes after—in every sense of the word. From the big existential questions like “What happens when you die?” to the deeply practical ones like “When is the right time to have sex again?” and “How do I change a tyre?”, this podcast explores the challenges and changes faced by widows, widowers, and anyone navigating life after loss.
Danny Painter lost her husband, Phil, of 17 years to a heart attack in their home in September 2023. Since then, she has been sharing her raw, real, and deeply personal story across social media and her radio show in South Africa.
Through unfiltered honesty, heartfelt conversations, and even a dash of humor, Life After Death offers a compassionate space to navigate grief, rediscover purpose, and embrace the next chapter—on your terms.
Because while loss changes everything, it doesn’t have to define who we become.
Episode 6: Widow’s Fire, Guilt & The Great Dildo of 2023
Life After Death, a podcast by Danny Painter
26 minutes 56 seconds
8 months ago
Episode 6: Widow’s Fire, Guilt & The Great Dildo of 2023
Nobody warns you about this part of grief. The moment when, in the middle of funeral paperwork and an existential spiral, your body suddenly decides: Hey… it’s been a while.
Cue full-blown panic, Catholic guilt (despite not being Catholic), and an existential crisis about whether or not the dead can see your browser history.
In this hilariously raw and brutally honest episode, Danny Painter talks about Widow’s Fire—the sudden, unexpected, and often shame-inducing return of desire after loss. She dives into the science behind sex and grief, the guilt spiral that follows, and of course, The Great Dildo of 2023—a cautionary tale about why you should never use high heel inches as a measurement system.
From accidental shopping disasters to the terrifying world of post-widow dating, this episode is equal parts comedy, therapy, and necessary conversation about an aspect of grief no one talks about—but everyone needs to hear.
If you’ve ever felt guilty for being human after loss, this one’s for you.
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Title music by the incredible GRAAFF.
This episode is for mature audiences only!
Life After Death, a podcast by Danny Painter
A frank and fearless conversation about death, life, and what comes after—in every sense of the word. From the big existential questions like “What happens when you die?” to the deeply practical ones like “When is the right time to have sex again?” and “How do I change a tyre?”, this podcast explores the challenges and changes faced by widows, widowers, and anyone navigating life after loss.
Danny Painter lost her husband, Phil, of 17 years to a heart attack in their home in September 2023. Since then, she has been sharing her raw, real, and deeply personal story across social media and her radio show in South Africa.
Through unfiltered honesty, heartfelt conversations, and even a dash of humor, Life After Death offers a compassionate space to navigate grief, rediscover purpose, and embrace the next chapter—on your terms.
Because while loss changes everything, it doesn’t have to define who we become.
