Hey there! Today we are talking about Baggage, what it is and it's effects on relationships.
What is baggage?
Baggage- Bringing the old stuff into the new.
Baggage can be cultural expectations, family history, past relationships,
Everybody has baggage it all depends on how you respond and deal with the baggage you bring. I think its important to know that.
What are signs that you or your spouse is carrying baggage
- Comparing your now to yesterday’s
- Traditional Expectations and their influence
- Insecurity / Paranoia
- Dark secrets/truths that you're reluctant to share
- Lack of commitment
- Control issues / Building walls
- Constantly having to prove yourself to your spouse
Ways to deal with baggage:
- Check it at the door! That communication bit comes into play have open dialogue about what happened, how it made you feel, and triggers
- Learn from the past
- Mental resolve (letting go of thoughts that your ex deserves)
- Let yourself completely heal (counseling, connect with a community that understands)
- Unpack things slowly but consistently
- Accept the things you can't change, the courage to change the things you can, wisdom to know the difference
