You’ve opened up your relationship or decided to explore non-monogamy, and at first, you’re excited — until BOOM — you're hit with a wave of feelings: jealousy, insecurity, anger, hurt...
You pump the brakes and set up rules to try to protect yourself and your partners from all this discomfort.
But it doesn’t work.
The rules feel punitive, like you're on a leash (and not the fun, kinky kind), and you're still overwhelmed with emotions.
In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between rules, boundaries, and agreements — and why shifting from punitive rules to collaborative agreements is the real key to feeling secure.
We introduce the Values-Based Agreement™ Model we developed and teach our clients, and share what it looks like in our own relationship!
We also dive into:
As a bonus, we also dig into communication tools like active listening, plus tips for dealing with feedback, criticisms, and resentments — all key skills for creating stronger, more resilient relationships.
It’s a jam-packed episode full of practical tools, real talk, and real-world examples!
✨ If you want to dive even deeper into boundaries, check out our episode: Pardon Me But You’re Stepping On My Boundaries
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