Episode 14: When Professional Meets Petty – Leading Through Disrespect with Emotional Intelligence

What do you do when professionalism meets pettiness — when the person you supervise challenges your authority, your patience, and your peace?

In this powerful episode, Dr. Fredrick Lee sits down with Morshelle Tease, a newly promoted leader facing disrespect from a former peer. Together, they unpack what happens when leadership transitions trigger resentment — and how emotional intelligence becomes the key to leading through it. You’ll hear a real-time coaching session that demonstrates how to pause, assess, and respond with purpose using Dr. Lee’s signature Change Moves framework. Discover how to protect your credibility, uphold accountability, and lead with composure when others forget their professionalism. Suppose you’ve ever struggled with staying professional when others aren’t. In that case, this episode will help you reclaim your confidence, maintain your calm, and lead with emotional maturity — even in the face of pettiness.

🎧 Listen now to learn how emotional intelligence transforms tension into leadership growth.

🧭 Show Notes

🗣️ Episode Theme

Leadership is tested not in moments of calm, but in moments of conflict. This episode explores how emotionally intelligent leaders can stay grounded and effective when faced with disrespect or resistance — especially from team members who once were peers.

👥 Guest

Morshelle Tease – A newly promoted leader navigating the challenges of leading former peers and confronting unprofessional behavior with grace and authority.

💡 Key Topics

• The emotional toll of being promoted over a peer
• Recognizing and managing disrespect in the workplace
• Applying emotional intelligence in real-world leadership conflicts
• The 4 Dimensions of E.I.: Self-Awareness, Self-Regulation, Social Awareness, and Relationship Management
• Using the Change Moves coaching method to respond with clarity and confidence

🔄 Dr. Lee’s Change Moves Framework

1. Self-Awareness – Identify the emotion you’re leading with
2. Self-Regulation – Pause before reacting; respond with authority, not emotion
3. Social Awareness – Understand the motives behind the behavior
4. Relationship Management – Set and reinforce boundaries through accountability
5. Integration – Define your personal leadership code for consistency and composure

🪞 Leadership Takeaways

• Disrespect reflects others’ insecurity, not your inadequacy
• Boundaries are a form of respect — for yourself and your team
• Composure is leadership in action
• Professionalism is your power; consistency is your credibility

✨ Quotable Moment

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In this follow-up to Bonus Episode 6 – Men Are Not OK, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II sits down with Te’Ana (she/her) — an esthetician from McKinney, Texas — for a raw, honest, and heartfelt conversation about the emotional conditioning of men and its impact on relationships, leadership, and mental health.

Drawing from Social Cognitive Theory (SCT) and observational learning, Dr. Lee explores how cultural modeling teaches boys to hide their emotions — and how that message, reinforced through generations, becomes an identity built on suppression rather than self-awareness.

Te’Ana shares her lived experience growing up in a community where men were told that emotional vulnerability was “feminine” or “gay,” reflecting the silent pain behind those beliefs and the relational cost of emotional disconnection. Together, they unpack how women experience that silence, how it affects communication and trust, and how both men and women can begin to rewrite the script.

This candid discussion challenges outdated gender norms and invites listeners into a new definition of strength — one grounded in courage, empathy, and authenticity.

🎯 Strength isn’t the absence of emotion. It’s the courage to feel.

🧭 Episode Highlights

• How Social Cognitive Theory explains men’s emotional conditioning
• Why “Boys Don’t Cry” is more than a phrase — it’s a lifelong script
• The emotional and relational cost of suppression in men
• A woman’s perspective on what it’s like to love and support emotionally guarded men
• The power of modeling vulnerability and creating emotional safety
• How men and women can build “emotional equity” together

⚙️ Change Moves (Takeaways)

1. Normalize Emotion as Human, Not Gendered – Feelings are universal, not masculine or feminine.
2. Create Emotional Safety in Relationships – Replace interrogation with curiosity.
3. Model the Behavior You Wish to See – Lead with openness; others will mirror it.
4. Redefine Masculine Strength – Courage is the ability to face emotion, not suppress it.
5. Heal in Community, Not Isolation – Vulnerability builds connection; connection builds strength.

💬 Memorable Quote

👥 Guest

Te’Ana (she/her) – Esthetician from McKinney, Texas
Known for her humor, honesty, and insight, Te’Ana brings lived experience to the conversation on men’s emotional health. She’s seen firsthand how societal conditioning shapes the men around her — and why unlearning silence begins with awareness, compassion, and courage.

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Summary

In this episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick Lee II engages in a profound conversation with Dr. Cynthia Payne, a breast cancer survivor and healthcare leader. They explore the intersection of personal experience and leadership, discussing the emotional intelligence required to navigate the challenges of a cancer diagnosis. Dr. Payne shares her journey from diagnosis to recovery, emphasizing the importance of self-efficacy, advocacy, and the role of intersectionality in healthcare. The conversation highlights the need for emotional support, the significance of trust in patient-provider relationships, and the transformative power of sharing one's story to inspire others.

Takeaways

Real leadership is born from lived experience.
Surviving breast cancer is the beginning of a new story.
Self-efficacy plays a crucial role in navigating health challenges.
Trust in healthcare providers enhances patient compliance.
Emotional intelligence is essential in leadership roles.
Advocacy can save lives by encouraging early detection.
Healing is a layered process that includes emotional and spiritual dimensions.
Sharing personal stories can empower others facing similar challenges.
Intersectionality impacts patient experiences in healthcare.
Survivorship involves ongoing management and awareness of health. 

Titles

Transforming Adversity into Leadership
The Intersection of Health and Leadership

Sound Bites

"Healing isn't linear, it's layered."
"Your voice matters."
"Surviving is not the finish line."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Leadership Lessons
02:21 The Journey of a Breast Cancer Survivor
03:55 Navigating the Healthcare System
06:24 The Role of Self-Efficacy in Healing
09:06 Intersectionality and Access to Care
11:32 Emotional Intelligence in Leadership
14:11 The Importance of Patient Advocacy
18:51 The Importance of Time in Healing
20:15 Mentorship and Leadership Through Adversity
21:28 Advocacy for Women's Health
23:05 The Ongoing Journey of Survivorship
24:00 Sharing Stories to Inspire Others
26:20 Encouragement for Those Facing Cancer
29:59 The Power of Awareness and Advocacy

Summary

In this episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick Lee II explores the profound connection between emotional intelligence, healing, and leadership. He emphasizes that healing is not merely a physical process but an emotional and relational journey. Through the lens of Black women's experiences, he discusses how emotional intelligence fosters resilience, self-leadership, and the ability to navigate life's challenges. The episode concludes with practical strategies for applying emotional intelligence in everyday life, highlighting its transformative power in both personal and professional contexts.

Takeaways

Emotional intelligence is crucial for healing and leadership.
Healing is about becoming wiser through pain, not returning to the past.
Self-awareness and self-regulation are key components of emotional intelligence.
Emotions provide valuable information during crises and challenges.
Isolation hinders healing; connection fosters it.
Self-leadership involves managing one's emotions and mindset.
Empathy and curiosity strengthen relationships and trust.
Purpose helps maintain motivation during difficult times.
Emotional intelligence can be practiced and developed.
Healing and leadership are intertwined processes of transformation.

Sound Bites

"Healing is not about returning to who we were."
"Emotional disconnection breeds isolation."
"Feel, then frame your emotions before reacting."

Chapters

00:00 The Intersection of Emotional Intelligence and Healing
05:43 Self-Leadership Through Emotional Intelligence
08:19 Practical Applications of Emotional Intelligence in Leadership

In this bonus episode of the Leadership Lessons Podcast, Dr. Fredrick Lee II takes listeners into one of the most urgent and human conversations of our time: the intersection of race, gender, and trust in healthcare.

Drawing on the voices and lived experiences of Black women navigating breast cancer, this episode uncovers the layered challenges that go far beyond medical treatment. It’s about battling inequities in access, racial bias in care, financial strain, gendered assumptions, and the deep historical wounds that shape trust—or distrust—in the healthcare system.

But the story does not stop at barriers. These women reveal how resilience, self-efficacy, and emotional intelligence become lifelines in their journeys. From advocating for themselves in dismissive environments to reframing stress into strategy to building support networks that multiply strength, their courage offers timeless lessons for leaders everywhere.

Listeners will discover:

• Why trust and cultural competence are essential in care, leadership, and community.
• How emotional intelligence competencies, such as empathy, self-awareness, stress tolerance, and reality testing, empower resilience.
• Practical Change Moves to lead with equity, build communities of voice, and transform stress into strategic growth.

This is more than a conversation about cancer. It is about leadership in the face of inequity, about honoring stories often left unheard, and about learning how resilience at the intersections can inform how we live, lead, and heal.

🔑 Key Themes

• Race, gender, and healthcare disparities
• Trust and cultural competence in medicine and leadership
• Emotional intelligence and resilience in adversity
• Breast cancer survivorship stories
• Equity, access, and advocacy
• Leadership lessons from lived experiences

🎯 Why You Should Listen

Whether you are a leader in healthcare, business, education, or the community, this episode challenges you to view inequity differently—and to lead with courage, clarity, and compassion. These stories will shift the way you think about resilience, equity, and leadership at the intersections.

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In Bonus Episode 7 of the Leadership Lessons Podcast, Dr. Fredrick Lee II explores the powerful connection between self-efficacy, resilience, and health through the lived experiences of Black women navigating breast cancer. This conversation goes far beyond medicine—it’s about survival, advocacy, and leadership at the intersections of race, gender, and healthcare equity.

Drawing on real-life stories of perseverance, Dr. Lee highlights how emotional intelligence—encompassing self-awareness, empathy, self-regard, and resilience—shapes both health outcomes and leadership growth. Listeners will hear how women transformed fear into confidence, turned financial and systemic barriers into strategy, and found strength in community while navigating disparities.

Whether you’re a leader in healthcare, business, or community life, this episode offers timeless lessons on how to lead with courage, build resilience, and practice empathy in the face of adversity.

🎯 Key themes: resilience in breast cancer, self-efficacy in health, leadership lessons from Black women, emotional intelligence and healing, healthcare equity.

Subscribe today and discover why resilience in leadership and life starts with believing in your own capacity to endure, adapt, and thrive.

Episode 13: The Mirror Isn’t Broken – Redefining Confidence and Self-Trust

Have you ever straightened your tie, adjusted your blouse, or rehearsed your lines before a big moment—only to look in the mirror and wonder, “Am I enough?”

In this episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we’re unpacking one of the most common struggles leaders face: confidence. Not the loud, performative bravado that often gets mistaken for confidence, but the steady alignment that comes from trusting yourself. Because here’s the truth: the mirror isn’t broken—what’s broken sometimes is our self-trust.

🔑 What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The difference between confidence and bravado—and why bravado drains trust instead of building it.
• How emotional intelligence (EI) becomes the compass for self-trust through self-awareness, self-regulation, reality testing, and self-regard.
• Real-world examples of how leaders sabotage their credibility when they perform confidence instead of practicing it.
• Research-backed insights on what makes leaders truly trustworthy and resilient.
• Practical Change Moves you can apply right away to rebuild confidence—choice by choice, promise by promise.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Confidence isn’t bravado—it’s alignment.
• Self-trust grows when we keep small promises to ourselves.
• The mirror doesn’t lie—it reflects a work in progress that’s already worthy of trust.

Whether you’re navigating self-doubt, rebuilding after a setback, or simply wanting to lead with greater authenticity, this episode will help you redefine confidence as something deeper, stronger, and more sustainable than performance.

🎧 Listen to Episode 13: “The Mirror Isn’t Broken – Redefining Confidence and Self-Trust” now.

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Men Are Not OK – Leadership Lessons Bonus Episode

In this bonus episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we confront a quiet crisis: men’s mental and emotional health. From the childhood message that “boys don’t cry” to the adult struggles of burnout, loneliness, and broken connection, Dr. Lee unpacks how cultural scripts around masculinity have left too many men without the tools to regulate, connect, and lead with compassion.

Drawing on Social Cognitive Theory, emotional intelligence research, and decades of leadership insight, this episode explores:

• How emotional suppression in boyhood shapes adult relationships, leadership, and workplace culture.
• The toll of loneliness and unexpressed emotions on men’s health and well-being.
• Practical strategies for men—and those who love, lead, and work with them—to rewrite the harmful script and reclaim strength through vulnerability.

This isn’t just a men’s issue—it’s a human issue. Because when men heal, everyone heals: families thrive, workplaces grow, and communities become stronger.

Listen now to learn why men are not okay—and how together we can change that.

🎧 Subscribe and explore more episodes at leadershiplessons.transistor.fm

Bonus Episode: Reality Testing – A Step-by-Step Process

🎯 From TikTok Follower @ErikaLove’s Request

Reality Testing is leadership’s truth serum — it keeps you honest with yourself and fair with others. In this bonus episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we dive deep into one of the most underused — yet most powerful — Emotional Intelligence skills.

You’ll learn:

• Why Reality Testing is the difference between reacting to the story in your head and responding to the facts in front of you.
• The risks leaders face when they skip this skill (and how credibility gets lost).
• How to integrate Self-Awareness, Impulse Control, Empathy, and Problem-Solving to strengthen your Reality Testing.
• A proven 5-step process to slow down snap judgments, separate fact from fiction, and make clear, credible decisions — even under pressure.

💡 This episode isn’t just theory — each step is designed to be a 90-second, actionable leadership shift you can apply immediately. Whether you lead a small team or an entire organization, Reality Testing will help you manage bias, navigate conflict, and build trust.

This topic came directly from TikTok follower @ErikaLove — proof that your questions and challenges help shape this podcast. If you have a leadership skill, dilemma, or topic you’d like broken down, DM me on TikTok, comment on a post, or email me through the podcast site. You might hear your name in a future episode.

📌 Next on Leadership Lessons: Episode 13 – The Mirror Isn’t Broken – Redefining Confidence and Self-Trust. We’ll explore how confidence isn’t about bravado — it’s about self-alignment, and how to rebuild trust in yourself one choice at a time.

🎧 Subscribe now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, or wherever you listen, and share this episode with another leader who’s ready to see clearly and decide wisely.

Keywords: Reality Testing, leadership decision-making, emotional intelligence skills, workplace bias, leadership credibility, fact-based decision making, leadership podcast, EI for leaders, effective decision-making, reducing leadership mistakes, truth in leadership, separating fact from fiction, leader credibility, building trust in leadership, emotional intelligence podcast, leadership under pressure, avoiding snap judgments, high-stakes leadership decisions, EI competencies for leaders, @ErikaLove TikTok.

Episode 12 – Belonging Without Assimilation: Leading Authentically in Dominant Culture Spaces

Can you belong at work without blending in?

In this episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick Lee II, we unpack the difference between belonging and assimilation — and why it matters for every leader who wants to create inclusive, high-trust, high-performance workplaces.

For leaders from historically marginalized backgrounds, the pressure to “cover” parts of your identity or code-switch to match dominant cultural norms is real. But the truth is, when you erase yourself to fit in, everyone loses — your team, your organization, and your leadership impact.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The key differences between belonging and assimilation in leadership contexts
• The hidden emotional, relational, and organizational costs of assimilation
• How Emotional Intelligence (EI) helps leaders navigate identity, culture, and power without losing themselves
• 4 EI skills that protect your authenticity in dominant culture spaces
• 5 practical Change Moves to lead without erasing who you are
• Why inclusive leadership benefits all leaders — not just those from underrepresented groups

Why this episode matters:
Workplace belonging drives engagement, innovation, and retention. Assimilation, on the other hand, limits potential and undermines trust. Whether you’re a leader shaping culture from within the dominant group or navigating it as an outsider, you have the power to set the tone for authenticity, inclusion, and trust.

Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction: The tension between belonging and blending in
6:25 – Defining belonging vs. assimilation
14:50 – The hidden tax of assimilation on leaders and teams
23:05 – 4 EI skills to protect your authenticity
32:40 – 5 Change Moves to lead without assimilation
45:20 – Closing thoughts and next episode preview

🎯 Key Quote:

Listen now and learn how to lead authentically, create cultures of belonging, and make sure no one has to leave part of themselves at the door.

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🎙️ Bonus Episode 4: Leadership Lessons Episode Recap
Host: Dr. Fredrick Lee II | Leadership Lessons Podcast

Episode Summary:
Whether you’ve been with us since Episode 1 or just found the podcast, this Leadership Lessons Recap is your perfect reset.

In this bonus episode, Dr. Fredrick Lee II walks you through the most powerful takeaways from Episodes 1 through 11—and the bonus episodes in between. Each conversation was designed to help you lead with emotional intelligence, personal insight, and professional impact.

💡 This episode isn’t just a recap—it’s a leadership reflection. We revisit the lessons that shaped our growth, challenged outdated leadership norms, and reminded us that sustainable leadership starts within.

🎧 What You’ll Learn in This Recap:

• Why Episode 1 introduced emotional intelligence as more than a concept—it’s a lifestyle
• How Episode 2 validated the emotional tax of imposter syndrome for marginalized leaders
• Why Episodes 4, 6, and 7 helped us understand trauma-informed leadership in real life
• How Episode 10 created space for the leaders who are “strong” but secretly struggling
• What the bonus episodes taught us about speaking truth to power and challenging the myth that EQ is just a “soft skill”
• And why Episode 11 was a critical turning point in building a balanced, burnout-resistant leadership lifestyle

📚 Grounded in research from the World Health Organization, Gallup, HBR, and TalentSmartEQ, these episodes unpack the real-world challenges of leading in high-stress, high-impact environments.

🔎 Looking to go deeper?
Dr. Lee offers personalized EQ coaching using the EQ-i².0 assessment—a data-driven approach to help leaders understand their emotional strengths, stress triggers, and growth areas.

🗣️ What do YOU want next?
What emotional intelligence topics do you want to hear more about? What leadership challenges are you facing?

Drop a comment, DM Dr. Lee, or message directly via https://leadershiplessons.transistor.fm

📌 Subscribe + Share:
Listen to past episodes, subscribe for new ones, or learn more about EQ coaching.

🎧 Available now on:
Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube | Or wherever you listen.

#LeadershipLessons #EQLeadership #PodcastRecap #EmotionalIntelligence #BurnoutRecovery #TraumaInformedLeadership #ExecutiveCoaching #WorkplaceWellness #DrFredrickLee #LeadWithEQ

🎙️ Bonus Episode 3: Are EQ Skills Really “Soft” Skills?
Host: Dr. Fredrick Lee II | Leadership Lessons Podcast

Description:
Let’s set the record straight—emotional intelligence (EQ) is not a “soft skill.”
It’s a strategic leadership advantage.

In this bonus episode, Dr. Fredrick Lee II challenges one of the biggest myths in leadership development: the idea that EQ is optional, emotional, or less important than “hard” skills like finance, data, or operations.

🔎 Inside this episode:

• Why calling EQ a “soft skill” reinforces bias and devalues human-centered leadership
• What emotional intelligence actually is—and what it isn’t
• A breakdown of the five EQ domains based on Dr. Daniel Goleman’s framework
• Research-backed reasons why EQ outperforms IQ in predicting leadership success
• How emotionally intelligent leaders build healthier teams, retain top talent, and foster innovation
• Why empathy, self-regulation, and communication are the real power skills of today’s workplace

📚 Featuring insights from Google’s Project Oxygen, Harvard Business Review, and TalentSmartEQ, this episode makes it clear:
EQ isn’t fluff. It’s your edge.

If you’ve ever been told that being emotional makes you weak—or that empathy has no place in leadership—this episode is your reframe.

💼 Ready to take it further?
Dr. Lee offers personalized EQ coaching using the EQ-i².0 assessment to help you map your emotional intelligence strengths, stress points, and growth areas—with data you can trust.

🔗 Learn more or subscribe at: https://leadershiplessons.transistor.fm

🎧 Listen now on:
Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube | Or wherever you listen.

💬 Join the Movement:
What part of this episode hit home? Share it with a colleague or leader who still thinks EQ is optional. And don’t forget to DM or comment with the EQ topics you want covered in future episodes!

#LeadershipLessons #EmotionalIntelligence #SoftSkillsDebunked #EQLeadership #EmpathyAtWork #LeadershipDevelopment #WorkplaceCommunication #DrFredrickLee #ExecutiveCoaching #EQMatters #LeadWithEQ

🎙️ Episode 11: From Burnout to Balance – Building a Leadership Lifestyle That Doesn’t Break You
Host: Dr. Fredrick Lee II | Leadership Lessons Podcast

Description:
Burnout isn’t just a leadership inconvenience—it’s a warning sign. And for many high-performing professionals, especially those holding space for others, burnout creeps in long before it’s ever acknowledged.

In this episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick Lee II explores what burnout really is, how it manifests in leadership, and why emotional intelligence (EQ) isn’t a “soft skill”—it’s the foundation of sustainable leadership.

You’ll learn how to:

• Identify the early warning signs of burnout
• Use emotional intelligence to stop the cycle of over-functioning
• Build protective habits and boundaries that support clarity, calm, and longevity
• Apply four key EQ competencies—self-awareness, impulse control, reality testing, and stress tolerance—to your everyday leadership
• Rethink what it means to be a “strong” leader without sacrificing your wellbeing

📚 Backed by insights from the World Health Organization, Harvard Business Review, Gallup, and the Journal of Occupational Health Psychology, this episode provides both research and practical strategies to help you lead from a place of balance and resilience.

Whether you’re an executive, people manager, entrepreneur, or carrying invisible labor at work—this conversation is for you.

🔎 Explore More:
Want to go deeper? Dr. Lee offers personalized EQ coaching using the EQ-i².0 assessment to help leaders identify strengths, stress patterns, and growth opportunities with data—not guesswork.

🔗 Learn more or subscribe at: https://leadershiplessons.transistor.fm

🎧 Listen now on:
Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | YouTube | Or wherever you tune in.

💬 Join the Conversation:
What part of this episode hit home for you? Leave a comment, share with your team, or message Dr. Lee with the topics you want to hear covered next.

#LeadershipLessons #BurnoutToBalance #EmotionalIntelligence #EQLeadership #MentalHealthForLeaders #SustainableLeadership #DrFredrickLee #LeadershipPodcast #ExecutiveCoaching #LeadWithEQ

🎙 Bonus Episode: Understanding Behavior, Identity & Environment to Lead with Impact
Podcast: Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II

Theme: Social Cognitive Theory & the Psychology of Leadership

What if your leadership style isn’t just something you chose—but something you learned to survive?

In this bonus episode, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II takes you beneath the surface of leadership strategy and into the science of Social Cognitive Theory—a powerful framework that explains how we learn, behave, and ultimately lead.

If you’ve ever struggled with:
– Imposter syndrome
– Perfectionism
– Over-functioning or burnout
– Leading through trauma responses instead of intention…

This episode will help you connect the dots between your past, your patterns, and your power.

You’ll learn how behavior, identity, and environment form an emotional ecosystem—and how to shift it using the tools of emotional intelligence, self-efficacy, and intentional leadership.

🧠 In this episode, we cover:
– The core principles of Social Cognitive Theory
– Why self-efficacy matters more than self-confidence
– How to identify and unlearn harmful leadership habits
– The role of emotional intelligence in rewriting your leadership story
– Practical Change Moves to help you lead with clarity, courage, and compassion

🛠️ Change Moves You'll Learn:

1. How to audit the leadership influences shaping your behavior
2. How to build self-belief with micro-wins that rewire your nervous system
3. How to create environments that reinforce growth, not fear

📝 Journaling Prompt of the Week:
What behavior are you repeating that no longer serves the leader you’re becoming?
What story needs to be rewritten—starting today?

📬 Let’s Work Together:
Looking for executive coaching, emotional intelligence workshops, or leadership retreats?
Contact: info@mrchangeyourlife.com

📱 Stay Connected:
Instagram & Facebook → @DrFredrickDwaneLeeII
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Because the way you lead is the way you live.

Lead like your healing matters.

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🎙️ Episode 10: The Cost of Being the Strong One – Leading When You're Tired of Holding It All Together
Hosted by Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II | Leadership Lessons Podcast

Description:

What does it cost to be the one who always holds it all together?

In Episode 10, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II explores the hidden weight of being “the strong one” in leadership, especially for those who are high-achieving, deeply empathetic, and constantly relied upon.

This episode is a call-in, not just a call-out. If you’re exhausted but expected to lead… if you’ve learned to suppress your needs to stay "professional"... if you're holding everyone else together while quietly unraveling—this one is for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How emotional intelligence can help you lead without losing yourself
• Why “being strong” can become a leadership liability if left unchecked
• 5 Change Moves for leaders who are showing up while worn out
• Practical tools to build boundaries, emotional sustainability, and truth-telling in leadership
• A powerful, affirming segment rooted in Black Feminist Thought, honoring the unique pressures and power of Black women in leadership

📌 Special Announcements:

🎁 Bonus Episode Coming Soon: A deep dive into Social Cognitive Theory—learn how behavior, identity, and environment interact to shape your leadership impact.

➡️ Episode 11 Preview: From Burnout to Balance – Building a Leadership Lifestyle That Doesn’t Break You
We’ll cover signs of burnout, recovery strategies, and how to lead from a place of wholeness, not depletion.

🎧 Listen, Share, and Subscribe
💬 Leave a review or comment—what part of this episode resonated with you the most?
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Tags:
#LeadershipPodcast #EmotionalIntelligence #StrongBlackWoman #RestIsResistance #LeadershipFatigue #BlackFeministThought #DrFredrickLee #LeadershipLessons #BurnoutRecovery

📄 Episode Description:

Telling the truth shouldn’t cost you your peace—but in systems that protect power, it often does.

In this Bonus Episode of Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II, we unpack what it really takes to speak truth to power—without sacrificing your credibility, emotional well-being, or future opportunities.

Inspired by a recent coaching conversation with a new leader navigating the tension between honesty and reputation, this episode dives into the emotional, strategic, and cultural complexity of being a truth-teller—especially for BIPOC professionals in spaces built to maintain the status quo.

🧠 This isn’t just about “being brave.”
It’s about emotional intelligence, power dynamics, psychological safety, and the cost of silence.

💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why speaking up in hierarchical systems often feels dangerous
• How ego, identity, and defensiveness shape leadership responses
• What neuroscience reveals about fear, feedback, and perceived threats
• The emotional tax of being “the only one in the room”
• How to lead with honesty and strategy—without burning out
• 5 Change Moves to help you advocate, influence, and protect your peace

🔧 Practical Tools You’ll Take Away:

• How to ground yourself before difficult conversations
• How to frame truth-telling around outcomes and shared values
• How to ask powerful questions that disarm defensiveness
• Why building coalitions matters more than going solo
• When to document, escalate, or exit unsafe environments

🗣️ Who This Episode Is For:

• Leaders navigating complex workplace dynamics
• BIPOC professionals who are “the first” or “only” in leadership
• Emerging executives who want to build trust and tell the truth
• Anyone who’s been labeled “too much” for challenging what’s broken

📝 Coaching Prompt of the Episode:

What truth have you been holding back because you’re afraid it will cost you something?
What would it look like to speak that truth with strategy, not just frustration?

📬 Stay Connected:

Need support as you grow your voice and lead with emotional intelligence?

▶️ Coaching, consulting, and workshops available:
📧 Email: info@mrchangeyourlife.com
📱 Follow: @DrFredrickDwaneLeeII on Instagram & Facebook

🎧 Subscribe, share, and leave a review.

Your voice supports this community of honest, grounded, change-making leaders.

🎙️ Episode 9 – Silencing the Inner Critic: Rewriting the Leadership Narrative in You

Episode Summary:
In this episode, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II confronts one of the most persistent barriers to effective leadership: the inner critic. That voice of self-doubt, perfectionism, and imposter syndrome can quietly undermine your confidence, especially when stepping into positions of influence. But here’s the truth—what you believe about yourself shapes how you lead others.

Dr. Lee explores how internal narratives are formed, why they show up stronger in leadership, and how to begin rewriting those beliefs into something empowering, liberating, and true. This episode offers tangible tools to help you silence negative self-talk, ground your leadership in self-awareness, and lead with clarity and courage.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✔️ How the inner critic forms—and why it’s louder in leadership
✔️ Signs you’re leading from fear instead of confidence
✔️ Three practical strategies to reframe your inner dialogue
✔️ How to align your leadership narrative with who you really are
✔️ “Change Moves” to apply in real-time when self-doubt creeps in

Change Moves:

1. Name the Voice – Give your inner critic an identity so you can challenge it objectively.
2. Rewrite the Script – Replace old beliefs with intentional affirmations rooted in truth.
3. Practice Quiet Confidence – You don’t have to be loud to lead with certainty.
4. Reflect, Don’t Ruminate – Learn from mistakes without letting them define you.
5. Stand in Your Becoming – Leadership isn’t about having all the answers—it’s about growing through the questions.

🎧 Listen now and share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that they are more capable than they think.

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🎙️ Episode 8 – Check Your Triggers: Leadership, Self-Regulation, and Emotional Agility

Welcome back to Leadership Lessons with Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II—your space to grow from the inside out.

In this episode, we’re getting honest about something every leader faces but few talk about honestly: triggers.

💥 Ever found yourself snapping in a meeting, avoiding conflict, or people-pleasing your way to exhaustion?
You’re not broken. You’re triggered. And that moment is your invitation, not your indictment.

This episode dives deep into:
✅ What triggers are (hint: they’re unprocessed pain points)
✅ How emotional intelligence helps you recognize and regulate your responses
✅ Why self-regulation is a leadership superpower, not weakness
✅ The neuroscience behind your reactions—and how to create space between stimulus and response

You’ll walk away with:
🔑 Practical “Change Moves” to grow your emotional agility
💡 Tools to lead with steadiness, not shutdowns
🧠 EQ strategies that help you honor your emotions without being hijacked by them

📌 Coaching Prompt of the Week:
What’s one trigger you’ve been reacting to—and how could you respond differently starting today?
Drop your answers in the comments, or DM me to talk it through.

💬 Let’s connect:
📧 Email: info@mrchangeyourlife.com
📱 Instagram/Facebook: @DrFredrickDwaneLeeII

🔁 Know a leader who’s navigating pressure with grit and grace? Share this episode with them.

📅 Next up: Episode 9 – Silencing the Inner Critic: Rewriting the Leadership Narrative in Your Head

🎧 Don’t forget—change is constant, but your growth? That’s intentional.

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📄 Episode Description:

What does it mean to be a trauma-informed leader?

In this episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II breaks down the essential elements of trauma-informed leadership. This approach prioritizes psychological safety, empathy, and clear boundary setting in the workplace. Too often, leaders confuse compassion with emotional absorption, ending up drained, overwhelmed, or unclear about where responsibility ends and enmeshment begins.

This conversation is a powerful reminder that you can foster trust and safety for others without carrying the emotional weight of everyone’s experiences. Dr. Lee provides tools, mindsets, and boundary language to help you lead with presence and protect your emotional well-being.

📝 Show Notes:

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• What trauma-informed leadership looks like in action
• How trauma shows up in the workplace—and what leaders often miss
• The difference between being a safe leader and a savior
• Practical ways to hold space without holding stories

Key Quotes:

Topics Covered:

• Recognizing trauma responses in work behaviors
• Setting boundaries with empathy
• Cultivating resilience without burnout
• The power of intentional leadership in healing environments

🔗 Connect with Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II:

• Website: www.mrchangeyourlife.com
• Instagram & Facebook: @drfredrickdwaneleeii
• LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/mrchange
• YouTube: youtube.com/@speakinofladyDDrLee
• Inquiries: info@mrchangeyourlife.com

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📄 Episode Description:

Leadership doesn’t pause for personal pain. But what happens when the person others rely on is also the one quietly holding grief, burnout, trauma, or emotional exhaustion?

In this deeply personal episode of Leadership Lessons, Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II explores the reality of leading while healing. He discusses the tension between being strong and being human, and how emotional intelligence can help leaders honor their own stories while still showing up with integrity and impact.

This conversation is for every leader who has ever held it together at work while falling apart inside—and for those who believe you shouldn’t have to choose between being effective and being whole.

📝 Show Notes:

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• Why healing and leadership are not mutually exclusive
• The cost of ignoring your own pain while trying to lead others
• How to set boundaries, seek support, and still show up with strength
• Practices for emotional regulation and self-compassion in high-pressure roles

Key Quotes:

Topics Covered:

• The myth of emotional neutrality in leadership
• Navigating leadership responsibilities while grieving, recovering, or growing
• Strategies for staying emotionally grounded when you're hurting

🔗 Connect with Dr. Fredrick D. Lee II:

• Website: www.mrchangeyourlife.com
• Instagram & Facebook: @drfredrickdwaneleeii
• LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/mrchange
• YouTube: youtube.com/@speakinofladyDDrLee
• Inquiries: info@mrchangeyourlife.com

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Stream on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, and YouTube.

Use #LeadershipLessonsPodcast to share your journey of healing while leading.