This week we’re kicking off my M.I.L.E.™ Framework with the first step: M is for Mirror. Let me be blunt: you can't lead anyone well if you aren’t leading yourself first.

In this episode, Shannon and I are getting honest (and a little hilarious) about self-leadership—what it looks like, where it breaks down, and why so many of us keep repeating patterns that sabotage our influence. From Chick-fil-A ice cream cravings to road rage and passive-aggressive meeting behavior, we break down how our tendencies shape our actions—and how a simple pause can change the whole room.

We’ll show you:

- How to ask, “What’s it like to be on the other side of me?”

- How to interrupt your unhealthy patterns and build new ones

- Why your intent doesn’t matter as much as your impact

- And how to start logging your tendencies like a leadership journal

This is one of the most transformational conversations we’ve had so far—and if you’re willing to look in the mirror, it might just change how you lead everything.

Let’s go first. Let’s go deep.

And let’s lead like we mean it.

Takeaways

• Leadership has not been fun; we've been led poorly.
• The most important person we're ever going to lead is ourselves.
• We are all leaders of self, impacting family and teams.
• The M in MILE stands for mirror, emphasizing self-reflection.
• Understanding our natural behavior is crucial for development.
• The mirror can be personal and painful but also freeing.
• Recognizing our tendencies helps us lead better.
• Intent is not the issue; impact is what matters.
• There is power in the pause before reacting.
• Self-awareness is key to effective leadership.

Chapters

00:00 | Introduction to Leadership and Self-Leadership

25:33 | Recognizing Tendencies and Triggers in Leadership

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