This is Part 2 to conversation. Be sure to listen to Part 1 first!)
Amy Lang M.A. of Birds, Bees + Kids is back to talk to us about how do you prepare your kids for the moment they inevitably come across porn? In this episode, the hosts tackle one of the toughest parenting challenges of the digital age: how to talk to children and teens about pornography before the internet does it for you.
The conversation covers when and how to start these talks, what language to use, and how to set up your home and devices so kids are both protected and prepared. Parents will learn about the best tools for monitoring and filtering, scripts they can use to navigate age-appropriate conversations without shame or fear, and the importance of introducing healthy alternatives and resources that frame sexuality in a positive, safe way.
This is not a one-time “talk,” but an ongoing dialogue—one that builds trust, reduces secrecy, and helps kids grow into adults who can understand and contextualize what they see online.
✨ Key Takeaways
Learn the exact scripts to start conversations about porn with kids of different ages.
Discover the best monitoring & filtering tools (like Bark and Custodio) to protect children online.
Get guidance on when to introduce the topic—and why waiting too long is risky.
Understand alternatives to mainstream porn (like ethical and feminist porn) that can provide healthier models for older teens.
Find out how to create a safe space for ongoing conversations that reduce shame and encourage openness.
Practical device management tips: how to set boundaries, monitor use, and adapt as your child grows.
🎧 Timestamps & Chapters:
00:00 Why Parents Must Prepare Kids for Porn
03:11 The Right Age to Start Talking
06:46 What the Data Says About Early Exposure
10:57 Scripts for Navigating Curiosity
14:32 Talking to Preschoolers vs. Older Kids
17:13 Calm, Direct, and Shame-Free Communication
25:20 Monitoring & Filtering Tools Parents Should Use
33:25 Device Management and Boundaries That Work
36:01 Parenting in the Digital Age: New Realities
44:31 Introducing Alternatives to Porn for Older Teens
49:31 Why Ongoing Conversations Matter