Aliza Shapiro is a New York City therapist who’s built a practice helping people feel better, think clearer, and stop overcomplicating their healing. In this episode, Rivki and Aliza talk about what makes therapy actually work, how to know if you’ve found the right therapist, and why overthinking your emotions might be what’s holding you back.
They get into high-achieving anxiety, the myth of work-life balance, and how to stop living by everyone else’s rules. This is a conversation about doing hard things, trusting your gut, and learning to feel instead of just analyze.
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00:00 Intro
02:07 How to Know if a Therapist Is the Right Fit
05:03 The Pragmatic Brain vs. Emotional Mind
07:38 How to Balance Logic and Feeling
09:54 Meditation, Stillness & Yin-Yang Friendships
12:28 Losing Your Compass in the Age of TheraSpeak
14:05 DBT and Holding Two Opposing Truths
15:26 Tough Love: Self-Awareness vs Accountability
18:18 What a 'Healed' Person Actually Looks Like
22:45 High Achievement and Giving Yourself Grace
26:42 Letting Go of Old Goals Without Guilt
29:49 Why Modern Women Struggle to Do It All
31:14 Fun, Family, and the Pressure to Be Everything
35:15 Fitness as a Metaphor for Reinventing Yourself
41:20 Fear vs. Anxiety: How to Know the Difference
44:06 Navigating Competing Value Systems
46:45 Being Present Is More Powerful Than Guilt
47:02 The Rise and Risks of Therapy Speak
52:40 Tips for Emotional Awareness & Intentional Living