Episode 51: Breaking Patterns & Building Self-Trust in Dating
Description:
In this episode of "Just Ask Her," Gracie and Tracy dive into three listener submissions that highlight the real challenges men face in modern dating. From navigating attachment styles and dating app fatigue to finding emotionally available partners and breaking free from self-sabotaging patterns, this episode is packed with actionable advice and heartfelt coaching. Plus, Gracie announces the launch of the Self-Made Man Dating Journal, designed to help single men reflect, grow, and date with intention.
Show Notes:
Intro & Halloween Banter
Gracie and Tracy kick off the episode with some lighthearted Halloween talk, sharing personal stories and family traditions.
Submission 1: Sal’s Story
Sal, a father of four and firefighter, shares his journey from anxious to secure attachment style.
Struggles with dating app fatigue and finding emotionally available women.
Gracie and Tracy discuss the pitfalls of over-labeling attachment styles, the scarcity mindset, and the importance of real-life connections.
Advice: Leverage your strengths in real-world environments, seek shared purpose, and remember that every "failed" connection brings you closer to alignment.
Submission 2: Kyle’s Question
Kyle wonders why it seems women don’t have hobbies and how to meet like-minded singles.
Discussion on generational trends, burnout, and the importance of reframing blanket statements.
Tips: Switch up your social activities, challenge self-sabotaging beliefs, and remember that the right partner will appreciate your diverse interests.
Submission 3: Greg’s Pattern
Greg, an Australian Air Force sergeant, describes a recurring pattern of women pulling away.
Gracie and Tracy explore confirmation bias, self-trust, and the importance of detaching from painful narratives.
Practical steps: Name the pattern neutrally, detach from identity, decide what you’ll do differently, and let people reveal themselves over time.
Resource Mentioned:
Self-Made Man Dating Journal – Now available on Amazon! Designed to help single men track dates, reflect, and grow. Limited first run—grab yours before they’re gone.
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