J & Courtney's In It Together: Mental Health & Healing Trauma
Epicphany Media
81 episodes
3 weeks ago
Courtney and J, the hosts of “In it Together”, explore Self-Improvement and Mental Health from a couple’s perspective. Courtney, a trauma counselor & coach, with 21 years in the field (16 in trauma recovery), brings her professional experience along with her personal journey with childhood trauma. J brings a keen sense of direction and a knack for analyzing. Together for 21 years, they’ve experienced many ups and downs and throughout that time found ways to work through their struggles as a couple and individually.
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Courtney and J, the hosts of “In it Together”, explore Self-Improvement and Mental Health from a couple’s perspective. Courtney, a trauma counselor & coach, with 21 years in the field (16 in trauma recovery), brings her professional experience along with her personal journey with childhood trauma. J brings a keen sense of direction and a knack for analyzing. Together for 21 years, they’ve experienced many ups and downs and throughout that time found ways to work through their struggles as a couple and individually.
Subconscious Sabotage: Pushing People Away When You Need Space
J & Courtney's In It Together: Mental Health & Healing Trauma
22 minutes 51 seconds
1 month ago
Subconscious Sabotage: Pushing People Away When You Need Space
Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed, craving space, but instead of saying no—you overcommit, explode, or unconsciously push people away? This is the hidden face of subconscious sabotage.
In this episode, we’ll explore:
Why saying “no” can feel threatening—even when it’s what you desperately need.
How old conditioning, trauma responses, and fear of rejection lead us to sabotage instead of setting boundaries.
The subtle ways sabotage shows up: irritability, withdrawal, overexplaining, or self-criticism.
Tools to practice pausing, naming your need for space, and communicating it clearly before sabotage takes over.
This conversation is for anyone who feels trapped in the cycle of over-giving, shutting down, or unconsciously pushing people away when all you really needed was to say: I need space right now.
By the end, you’ll see that sabotage isn’t weakness—it’s a signal from your nervous system pointing toward the boundary you’ve been afraid to set.
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J & Courtney's In It Together: Mental Health & Healing Trauma
Courtney and J, the hosts of “In it Together”, explore Self-Improvement and Mental Health from a couple’s perspective. Courtney, a trauma counselor & coach, with 21 years in the field (16 in trauma recovery), brings her professional experience along with her personal journey with childhood trauma. J brings a keen sense of direction and a knack for analyzing. Together for 21 years, they’ve experienced many ups and downs and throughout that time found ways to work through their struggles as a couple and individually.
