It's Free Period

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It's Free Period

14 episodes

5 days ago

Welcome to It’s Free Period!, a bi-weekly podcast where we chat about personal growth, career moves, along with regular doses of secondary school nostalgia. We’re Mofi, Esther, and Aisha, three Nigerian women who met in Year 8/JSS2 centuries ago (okay, 2005 lol). This is us taking a break to figure life out together, just like we used to during our free periods back in the day. Come hang with us as we catch up, share stories, and navigate all of life’s twists and turns. Get comfy, press play, and settle in!

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Episodes (14/14)

It's Free Period

Episode 15: The Friendship Resume

We're back with another catch-up episode! Esther has been under the weather and lost her voice thanks to the daycare flu her toddler lovingly passed along (sharing is caring, right?). Mofi is in job-hunting mode with new urgency, and we're hopeful for some good news soon. Aisha is working on balancing her career with her social life, while also on a quest to find friends who share her values… which might be hard because she’s one of one (and the only one!)

As always, we hope you enjoy this episode and we would love to hear your thoughts on the topics discussed.

p.s. If you are interested in being Aisha's friend (and you meet the criteria), please send an email to itsfreeperiodpod@gmail.com

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1 month ago

1 hour 17 minutes 20 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 14: Rumour Has It

This week, we try and fail to agree on what gossip actually is. We dig into our personal philosophies, codes of conduct, unspoken ethics, and complicated relationships with gossip such as where the boundaries lie. Esther can’t get past the word’s bad connotation and insists that harmless gist doesn’t count. Mofi wants clarity on when it’s okay to talk about a friend… with other friends in the same group. Aisha is on a mission to find out why so many women take issue with those who share everything with their male partners, and whether that’s fair. One thing we can all agree on? All three of us absolutely love to gossip.

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2 months ago

1 hour 12 minutes 41 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 13: The un-coddling of African Parents

This week, we’re asking tough questions: Are African parents too coddled? Is it time to decenter them in our emotional narratives? And how do you negotiate conflict when your values are at odds? We rant about African parents and whether things are actually getting better with each generation.

Mofi shares the details of a recent fight with her mum and questions why empathy so often feels one-sided. Esther, meanwhile, can’t relate, and isn’t exactly worried about her own parenting skills. And Aisha? She swears she’s not a yapper... but based on how much she had to say in this episode, we’re not so sure. Maybe she just needed to get somethings off her chest?

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3 months ago

1 hour 9 minutes 37 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 12: Apply Now, Conceive Later

This week’s episode was all about catching up! How did Mofi’s first ìtọ́jú Mentoring event go? How did Esther survive a week of solo‑parenting? And how is Aisha settling into work and life in Nigeria?

We discussed the realities of childcare in Canada — the hunt for the right daycare and never‑ending waitlists. Aisha and Mofi talked about the “sibling tax” they pay as older siblings, while Esther couldn't relate and proudly admitted to doing the taxing instead. We rounded things off with our summer and future plans (which may or may not include a group trip with you, our listeners 👀).

We hope you enjoy the episode and yes, the sound quality is better this week 😀 As always, we’d love to hear your thoughts so join in on the conversation by leaving us comments on Spotify or Instagram.

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3 months ago

1 hour 9 minutes 39 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 10: Between Grace and Goodbye

In this episode, we explore the tension of staying in relationship with people we don’t agree with. Is cutting people off always the answer? What’s the cost of continuing the relationship? Can we draw the line between discomfort and danger? We explore how much grace is expected and whether that grace gets in the way of accountability, especially when there is an imbalance of power. Esther shares why grace and understanding should be at the center of disagreement. Aisha and Mofi ultimately agree but with reservations as they reflect on who is always expected to take on the burden of educating and extending grace, and at what cost. We wrap the episode by sharing our accountability goals and ask ask for grace as we move through them.

Enjoy the episode and let us know what you think. Thank you for sticking with us for 10 episodes. We’re looking forward to 10 more with you.

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4 months ago

1 hour 7 minutes 22 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 9: On do-overs

We’re backkkkkk! Catch up on what we each got up to during our month-long break and how successful we were on our accountability goals (Spoiler: Someone may need to lay hands on Esther at this point). We also took a trip down memory lane and discussed the things we might do differently if we had to go through high school all over again. Enjoy the episode and feel free to share your own thoughts on what you would do differently!

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5 months ago

1 hour 15 minutes 25 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 8: Strictly Platonic? ft. Koj (SubmaRoach)

This week, we’re joined by our very first guest, Sayo a.k.a Koj from Submarine and a Roach podcast! Together, we wade into the murky waters of intimacy in mixed gender friendships, asking the age-old question: Can men and women really be just friends? Esther believes proximity and strong boundaries are key to keeping romantic feelings at bay. Sayo gets why some people might raise an eyebrow, and claims that men can’t be trusted. Mofi highlights the constant shadow of romantic suspicion that tends to follow platonic friendships (even in queer spaces) which makes it hard to be close without it being questioned. And Aisha asks: so what if there’s attraction and you act on it? She challenges the binary thinking around intimacy and friendship, emphasising that people should define these connections on their own terms.

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6 months ago

1 hour 14 minutes 25 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 7: The Joys and Woes of Living in the Diaspora

In this episode, we explore the layered experiences of life in the diaspora. From the transition out of Nigeria to life in Canada and the UK, we unpack what it means to carry your culture with you and how that culture shifts in new environments. We talk about boarding school life post-Nigeria, navigating the clash between Nigerian and Western values, and the unique challenges of raising children with a sense of identity that spans continents. Esther shares why she prioritises her daughter learning French over Yoruba, while Mofi opens up about her deep need to return to Nigeria regularly even when her queer identity complicates that connection. This episode is about reconciling love for home with the realities of building life elsewhere and how we stay connected, even from afar.

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6 months ago

1 hour 23 minutes 43 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 6: Are you settling or compromising?

What does it really mean to settle in love, career, or life? In this episode, Aisha, Mofi, and Esther unpack the tricky layers of settling. Aisha wonders if the matter of settling is something we only decide on after-the-fact when we’ve seen how things turn out. Mofi brings in the role of privilege, pointing out how LGBTQ folks often face more limited options and harsher consequences, yet still take bold risks. Esther shares her hard line on never settling in marriage, but acknowledges that in careers, sometimes survival has to come first. We ask: Are we projecting our own values when we judge someone else’s choices? Is settling always a bad thing or could it just be making the best decision with what you’ve got?

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7 months ago

1 hour 14 minutes 10 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 5: Much Ado About Bad Break-Ups

Breakups can be dramatic and sometimes just plain ridiculous. In this episode, we’re sharing our pettiest and messiest break-up stories, from the final straw that made Mofi swear off men, Esther’s sudden shift from lover girl to her brief experimental phase, and Aisha's never-ending break-up saga (seriously, the timing couldn’t have been worse). Plus, we discuss the songs that get us through heartbreak and play a round of Would You Rather that forces us to make some impossible choices.

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7 months ago

1 hour 3 minutes 43 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 4: On Community & Difficult Decisions

In this episode, we talk about the realities of adulting and how unsustainable it feels for 3 of us. Aisha shares some unexpected news with us and we give her some advice on a dilemma she’s navigating. Esther is dreaming about how to opt out of the grind of life, and Mofi is struggling to balance everything with the 24 hours we have. We chime into the conversation about community and discuss what we think about the “inconvenience” of it all. Should an element of community building be inconvenience? Join us as we discuss adulting, community and making difficult decisions.

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7 months ago

1 hour 7 minutes 34 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 3: On Past Identities & Present Roles

In this episode, we share our thoughts on the controversial topic of marrying someone who was once your secondary school teacher—yikes or yay? We then explore some of the complexities of being seen through the lens of our former selves, before discussing how we meet (or don't meet) family expectations.

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8 months ago

1 hour 56 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 2: On Roads Not Taken

In this episode, Esther shares the excitement of landing a new job - but the struggle with time management is real. Mofi takes us back to her teenage years and the moment she had her feminist awakening. And Aisha gets reflective about her PhD journey and the unexpected turns of life. What if we had all the answers? What if we actually figured out balance, purpose, and passion? Join us as we unpack the "what ifs" of career, identity, and growth.

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8 months ago

1 hour 11 minutes 39 seconds

It's Free Period

Episode 1: Introduction

For our very first episode, we're giving you the full scoop on how this podcast came to be, how we met, and where we stand in our career journeys. Mofi is embracing her 'fun-employment', Esther is preparing for a career transition, and Aisha is focused on building a professional brand as a go-getter.

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9 months ago

1 hour 16 minutes 20 seconds