[This is a repost from a few weeks ago]  In this episode I share my reflections about how messed up it is to expect people to comfort you about their traumas.  I.e. please don't listen to this and message me about how sorry you are.  That makes me feel uncomfortable and pressured to give you comfort about my trauma.  Also don't go around insisting people are survivors (if that's not how said people identify) because you need their trauma to mean something greater.  I am not here to inspire you.  Also you are complicit in rape culture if you participate in making it so damn hard and uncomfortable for us to be rape victims in peace.  

Sources referred to:

5 Reasons Why I Identify As a Rape Victim, Not a Rape Survivor: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/07/rape-victim-not-a-rape-survivor/

Inspiration Porn: Why We Need to Stop Tokenizing Survivors: https://everydayfeminism.com/2014/10/survivor-stories/

James is Dead: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Op14XhETfBw&feature=emb_logo

Born to Kwaito: 

Music by Bongo Maffin: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdIz7UNE5Mc