When you have been through something tragic or even just a miserable happening in your life. Do you really want to be asked if you are ok? Are you ok? Or what if someone responds with " I am so sorry that happened to you". Do you feel like you are expected to respond with " oh it's ok, I fine." Because you are not fine! Let's replace this automatic non actual feeling of concern with "Thank you for sharing that with me. You have enlightened my thoughts and surroundings about the happenings in this world and you were amazing to handle things the way that you did." Lets empower one another to heal instead of remaining in the trenches of what happened.