When Coldplay’s Jumbotron "kiss cam" (sidenote, it's not a kiss cam, its the Jumbotron Song) sparked global buzz over an affair, it reminded us of a hard truth—infidelity is not entertainment. In this must-listen episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and relationship expert, breaks down the real reasons people cheat, from disconnection and loneliness to conflict avoidance and unmet emotional needs. You’ll learn: Why affairs happen (it’s not always about sex) The truth about shame, betrayal, and emotional wounds How couples can begin to heal after infidelity Whether you’re rebuilding trust, struggling with betrayal, or reflecting on your own relationship, this episode offers insight, compassion, and powerful takeaways. Keywords: infidelity, why people cheat, relationship betrayal, marriage repair, emotional affairs, rebuilding trust, couples therapy, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish RESOURCES: Preorder my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People talk about setting boundaries—but what if it’s actually avoidance? In this episode, Dr. Tracy breaks down the difference between real emotional boundaries and the kind that push your partner away. Understand the difference and how you can center yourself in creating healthy communication and a stronger connection in your relationship. Keywords: relationship boundaries, avoidant behavior, communication in relationships, emotional connection, healthy boundaries, conflict in marriage RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Join Be Connected and feel closer in your relationship: Learn more here Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Quince Bedding: Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this three-parter, Dr. Tracy shares the real conversations happening in therapy and at home. Part 1: Is telling your child “You’re fine” gaslighting? Dr. Tracy unpacks this hot take and why parenting needs more nuance—not more guilt. Part 2: A listener asks if her husband should confront his mother for trash-talking them on social media. Dr. Tracy explores boundaries, control, and what to do when estrangement gets messy. Plus, her new book cover is finally revealed—preorders are live. Part 3: A powerful insight from a couple navigating intimacy struggles—and the one shift that helped desire return. For anyone parenting, partnering, or navigating complex in-law dynamics, this episode brings honest reflection, expert guidance, and one exciting announcement. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY and get on your way to being your best self. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Pre-order You, Your Husband, and His Mother Now!! Navigating the Parent-Child Attachment with Dr. Tanya Cotler Gaslighting and Manipulation with Dr. Morgan Anderson RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we over-explain, justify, or get defensive—especially in our closest relationships? In this episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores the deeper reasons behind the urge to explain yourself, even when it doesn’t bring clarity or connection. Drawing from her work with clients, Dr. Tracy unpacks how childhood wounds, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection often drive our need to be understood or seen as "right." You’ll learn why this pattern is so common in romantic relationships, how it shows up as defensiveness or justification, and what to do instead to create emotional safety and deeper connection. This episode offers compassionate insight and actionable tools to shift out of old patterns and into relational healing. RESOURCES Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: OneSkin: Use code TRACY to say 15% off Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Planning a summer vacation should bring connection—not conflict. But for many couples, time away becomes a pressure cooker for everything they haven’t talked about: the unequal mental load, unspoken expectations, and simmering resentment. In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and couples therapist, is joined by her husband Greg to unpack how to prepare your relationship for vacation. Together, they dive into the emotional and logistical stress of the mental load, how to divide responsibilities fairly, and the importance of communicating needs and boundaries before you hit the road. Plus, they share a powerful DM from a community member—a husband learning how to sit with vulnerability and navigate the discomfort of disappointing his partner. It’s an honest look at what it means to grow in a relationship, and how emotional intimacy is built not in big moments, but in the small, everyday repairs. Whether you’re planning a family vacation, dealing with in-laws on your summer trip, or trying to reduce resentment in your marriage, this episode gives you practical strategies to feel more connected—not just on vacation, but long after you return home. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish explores a common but painful experience in relationships: knowing what your partner needs, wanting to show up differently, and still defaulting to old, self-protective patterns. If you’ve ever said, “I love my partner, but I keep shutting down,” or “I know I’m hurting them, but I don’t know how to stop,” this episode is for you.Dr. Tracy shares a relatable story from her own marriage, explains how nervous system responses and attachment styles like avoidant and anxious-avoidant can override our intentions, and helps you understand why awareness isn’t always enough to create change. In this episode, you’ll learn:- Why you might choose safety over connection in moments that matter- How avoidant and anxious attachment styles influence relationship behavior- What it means to act from a coping mechanism that no longer fits- How to move from autopilot to conscious connection- Five practical steps to begin shifting your patterns today- Why emotional regulation, repair, and self-compassion are key to long-term change Whether you're in the roommate phase, stuck in emotional disconnection, or trying to be more present in your relationship, this episode offers honest insights and real tools for growth. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Join my relationship program, Be Connected, and feel more like a team and close again. Learn more here Podcast Episode: Understanding Your Attachment Style to Help Strengthen Your Relationship. Listen here Identify the stories you tell yourself in your relationship. Download here RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about standing up for her child, navigating hard conversations with other parents, and teaching children how to build trust in friendships. She explores what it means to act on your values, model courage, and help kids make sense of complex social situations. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the words you're using are keeping you stuck? In part two of this conversation, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan explore how to step out of pathologizing language and into deeper emotional responsibility. You’ll walk away with practical tools to create healthier dialogue, rebuild safety, and connect more meaningfully with your partner. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% with code TRACY at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your relationship being hurt by the words you’re using? In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Dr. Morgan, attachment theory expert and psychologist, unpack how terms like “gaslighting,” “narcissist,” and “manipulation” are often misused—and why that misuse is damaging our relationships. Tune in for an honest, expert-led conversation that challenges oversimplified narratives and brings back the nuance we desperately need. Learn more about Dr. Morgan Anderson - https://drmorgancoaching.com/Say hello to her on IG - https://instagram.com/drmorgancoaching RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! Click here Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy unpacks what The Four Seasons on Netflix gets right about long-term love. From emotional distance to growing apart, invisible labor to unspoken resentment, this isn’t just a show—it’s a mirror. And if you're feeling the quiet disconnection in your own relationship, this one's for you. RESOURCES: Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠ Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares a personal story about a mug left beside the sink—and how something so small can symbolize something much bigger in a relationship. Sitting with her husband, Greg, they explore how resentment builds in everyday moments, especially during busy seasons like summer when couples often shift into "roommate mode." They talk about: How micro-moments can quietly erode connection Why summer often intensifies disconnection The importance of naming resentment before it explodes How to feel more like a team This episode is for anyone feeling unseen, emotionally overloaded, or stuck in the day-to-day. Spend the next ten days feeling connected. Join the next More Than Roommates Challenge! ⁠Click here⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: OneSkin: Use code TRACY for 15% off at oneskin.co ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits with therapist and author Britt Frank to explore her new book Align Your Mind—a guide to understanding the inner conflicts that leave us feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or out of sync with ourselves. They talk about the power of "parts work"—the idea that we all carry different inner parts with competing needs and beliefs—and how learning to listen to these parts can transform our mental health, relationships, and self-trust. Listen in and discover:What “parts work” really meansHow misalignment shows up in everyday lifeBreaking the myth of needing to "fix" ourselvesOne simple step you can take today to feel more aligned Check out Britt Frank at https://www.brittfrank.com/align-your-mind RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Branch Basics:⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Mint Mobile: Just $15 a month with mintmobile.com/TRACY AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve all heard it: “I said I’m sorry, what more do you want?” In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg unpack why so many apologies miss the mark — and what you can do when you’re left feeling unseen, dismissed, or even more hurt after hearing “sorry.” Together, they explore why bad apologies happen (hint: it’s not always malicious), the emotional cost of apology fatigue, and the scripts you can use to move from surface-level repair to real reconnection. If you've ever felt stuck in a cycle of rupture, rushed apology, and no real change — this episode will show you a better way forward. Plus, don’t miss the free listener guide: Scripts to Move From Surface Apologies to Real Repair! Whether you're the one giving or receiving the apology, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered to repair with greater clarity, compassion, and connection. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: AirDoctorPro: Save $300 with code TRACY at https://airdoctorpro.com GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional connection isn’t built by grand gestures—it’s created in the quiet, everyday moments between you and your partner. In this episode, Dr. Tracy shares 5 practical ways you can actually build connection with your partner, especially when things feel distant. Whether you’re stuck in the roommate phase or craving more closeness, these simple shifts can bring you back to each other—one intentional moment at a time. Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠. ⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re breaking down the myth of “happy wife, happy life” and why it’s quietly harming relationships. Dr. Tracy and relationship coach Matthew Fray explore how focusing only on your partner’s happiness can lead to resentment, disconnection, and the slow breakdown of intimacy. Learn why sharing your inner world matters more, how to move past the defensive narrative, and creating intentionality in the art of noticing to creating healthy habits in your relationship. Learn more with Matthew Fray ⁠here⁠. ⁠Listen to our previous episode on micro betrayals and emotional neglect that hurt relationships. ⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order ⁠⁠here! ⁠⁠ LINKS: GoPure Beauty: Save 25% at ⁠https://gopurebeauty.com/tracy⁠ code TRACY ⁠Lumen⁠: Save 15% at ⁠https://lumen.me/DEARTRACY⁠ ⁠⁠AquaTru⁠⁠ - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: ⁠⁠acornsearly.com/tracy⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this deeply personal solo episode, Dr. Tracy reflects on a decade of motherhood—and the ways parenting has reshaped her identity, her marriage, her boundaries, and her inner world. This episode isn’t a guidebook. It’s a truth-telling moment for anyone feeling lost, tired, or stretched too thin.  RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Branch Basics: Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy sits down with author and producer Lindsay Jill Roth to talk about her new book, Romances and Practicalities—a love story woven together with 250 thoughtful questions designed to deepen connection and spark meaningful conversations between partners. Together, they explore the space where romance meets real life—how couples can navigate everyday responsibilities without losing the spark, and why asking better questions is the secret to building a lasting relationship. Lindsay shares what inspired the book, how her own experiences shaped it, and the surprising ways practicality can actually fuel intimacy. Whether you're dating, newly married, or decades in, this episode will inspire you to pause, reflect, and get curious with your partner. Learn more about Lindsay Jill Roth: https://lindsayjillroth.com/ Grab her book, Romances and Practicalities: https://lindsayjillroth.com/romances-amp-practicalities/ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Tracy and her husband, Greg, dive into one of the most common relationship traps: the urge to fix rather than connect. After a personal moment of miscommunication, they break down how well-intentioned problem-solving can actually push partners further apart instead of bringing them closer. Greg shares his instinct to fix problems quickly, while Dr. Tracy unpacks the deeper emotional needs that often go unmet when one partner jumps straight to solutions. Through relatable stories, vulnerable reflections, and real-life relationship tools, they explore why fixing is often a way to manage our own discomfort—and what to do instead. Click play to find out why fixing isn’t always helping—and what to do instead. And don’t forget to share this episode with the fixer in your life. RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: Take it here Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here! LINKS: Vionic Shoes: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Air Doctor Pro - air purifier: Use code TRACY for $300 off at https://airdoctorpro.com/ AquaTru - water filter: Use promo code for TRACY for 20% off at https://aquatru.com/ ACORNS Early debit card and smart app for kids: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Answering your questions! In this bonus episode, Dr. Tracy answers a powerful listener question: “Is divorce contagious?” She explores how a friend’s separation can impact our own relationship, the research behind social contagion, and why moments like these often reflect unspoken needs or desires. Taking her 18 years of working with clients through all seasons of their relationship, Dr. Tracy reminds listeners that while divorce isn’t truly “catching,” it can be a mirror inviting us to pause and reconnect. If you’re feeling the distance in your relationship and looking to reconnect, join Dr. Tracy's More Than Roommates Challenge or try her 30 Days to Us. LINKS: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Episode Sponsors: Learn more about AQUATRU: Use promo code for 20% off TRACY Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever reacted in a way that felt… bigger than the moment? Maybe your partner forgets to check in, and suddenly you feel unimportant or abandoned. Or you receive a small piece of feedback and spiral into shame. You might wonder, “Why am I like this?” In this episode, Dr. Tracy guides you through how to identify when your inner child is showing up—and how to begin healing those younger parts of you that still carry unmet needs and emotional wounds. This episode explores: What the inner child really is (and what it isn’t) The subtle signs your inner child is driving your reactions A personal story of when Dr. Tracy's own inner child took the wheel—and how she did the work The exact steps Dr. Tracy uses with clients to heal emotional triggers and reparent themselves with compassion Why understanding your inner child can transform not just your relationship with yourself, but with your partner and your loved ones If you’ve ever said, “I know better, but I still react this way,” this episode will help you move from self-blame to self-understanding—and offer you a clear path to healing. Press play now to begin the powerful process of reconnecting with your inner child in a way that’s healing, grounded, and life-giving. LINKS: Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here!     Ready to deepen your connection? Download my 100 Questions!  Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the 30 Days to Us Challenge Heal old wounds and build healthy interdependence with my book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” - order here!    Episode Sponsors: Learn more about AQUATRU: https://aquatru.com Use promo code for 20% off TRACY Learn more about ACORNS: acornsearly.com/tracy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices