When D’Angelo released “Lady” in 1995, it felt like an instant classic — smooth, soulful, and intimate in a way that made every woman want to be the one he was singing about. Back then, it was just a vibe — that neo-soul groove that felt like slow dancing under a streetlight.

But now, as a 40-something woman hearing it again, “Lady” hits on a whole different frequency. It’s not just about romance — it’s about being seen, chosen, and cherished without performance. It’s about the kind of love that feels safe enough to soften into.

In this episode of I Talk To Myself Sometimes, I unpack how “Lady” shaped the way we imagined love in the 90s — and how it still whispers to the part of us that craves softness, devotion, and mutual respect.

What we explore:

• What “Lady” meant in the 90s neo-soul era — and what made it different

• How D’Angelo’s delivery embodied tenderness and confidence at once

• The difference between being adored and being idealized

• How “safe love” shows up differently in our 40s

• Personal reflections on what it feels like to finally be someone’s “lady” — or choose not to be

If you’ve ever listened to “Lady” and felt that quiet smile rise up in you — this one’s for you.