Amy and Jen discuss the importance of using the right language and being kind and respectful when working with parents. We go through the use of pronouns, preferred names and discuss LGBTQIA+ communities and how they relate to our role. We go back to basics with definitions for those people who don't yet understand the difference between sex and gender, what to do if you make mistakes and how to get it right; as well as talking briefly about the potential complexities of lactation and birth for transgender parents. You might think of these issues as niche but it they truly aren't - this is an issue for every single health professional. If you think it doesn't apply in your area, or you have not come across it yet, even more reason for you to listen to this and gain more knowledge and understanding. As a society we are on a journey to become kinder, more inclusive, more compassionate and more empathetic to other human beings. This is all part of that journey. We won't get it right every time - but we urgently need to start trying. We would love to hear your thoughts. If you feel we have missed something or you would like to contribute to this conversation please do drop us an email at iamahealthvisitor@gmail.com Resources and Reading: Mentioned in the podcast - The queer birth club - https://queerbirthclub.co.uk 'Animal: The Autobiography of a Female Body' by Sara Pascoe Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine Clinical Protocol: https://abm.memberclicks.net/assets/33%20Lactation%20Care%20for%20LGBTQ%20Plus%20Patients.pdf Brighton Midwives Gender Inclusion: https://www.bsuh.nhs.uk/maternity/our-services/specialist-support/gender-inclusion/ Statistics on Outcomes for Transgender People: https://www.stonewall.org.uk/sites/default/files/trans_stats.pdf Additional Resources: If you are looking to understand more about gender issues there are some excellent resources to help you learn. Gender Spectrum - a range of excellent summary articles covering the essentials: https://www.genderspectrum.org/articles/understanding-gender An Ally's Guide to Terminology: https://www.glaad.org/sites/default/files/allys-guide-to-terminology_1.pdf Birth for Every Body: Group of midwives aiming to make birth feel safe and inclusive for everyone: http://www.birthforeverybody.org