Beyond Small Talk: The Power of Authentic Communication. Are You Playing Games With People, Or Are They Playing Games With You?Do you find yourself sometimes getting caught up in drama? Do you wander off on autopilot, trying to score points against others whilst wondering why? Do you have script-like expectations of how your life will probably turn out? Are you playing games to avoid dealing with difficult situations?
In our day-to-day interactions, we often fall into patterns of "games people play." We assume roles and partake in superficial conversations to avoid discomfort or vulnerability. In this video, I delve into the topic of transactional analysis and explore how these "games" impact our ability to connect authentically with others.
During a recent networking event, I couldn't help but notice how many attendees defaulted to surface-level exchanges, resorting to games like small talk to avoid more meaningful interactions. We tend to hide behind our job titles or discuss mundane topics, rarely sharing our true thoughts and feelings. But why?My observation sparks a discussion on why individuals engage in such behaviour, exploring underlying psychological factors and social dynamics. He touches upon psychology to examine these interactions, aiming to foster **self-awareness**. Addressing human nature, I provides life lessons on understanding these social patterns.
As Eric Berne’s "Games People Play" suggests, these roles offer a sense of safety, a way to navigate social situations without addressing deeper issues. While this may feel comfortable, it often leaves us craving more.
Marshall Rosenberg’s "Nonviolent Communication" offers an alternative approach: engaging in genuine conversations that allow us to express our authentic selves. I yearn for interactions that spark joy, curiosity, and friendship—the kind that make networking events and social gatherings truly memorable.
While the inclination to play it safe is natural, it’s time to challenge ourselves to go beyond the script. Let's create spaces where people can share meaningful aspects of themselves, fostering genuine connections rather than settling for surface-level exchanges.
My goal is to encourage vulnerability and inspire us to explore what truly drives each person. This will lead to a deeper understanding of one another. Together, we can move beyond transactional analysis and superficial games and embrace more authentic interactions that lead to meaningful relationships.
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00:00 Introduction
01:06 What are games people play?
03:58 Eric Berne, Transactional Analysis
04:22 Marshall Rosenberg, Non-Violent Communication
06:45 Pattern-interrupt the game
10:24 The origins of the games: The family system
14:39 The longer game: life scripts
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