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How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships
TruStory FM
236 episodes
1 week ago
Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.
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Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.
Show more...
Relationships
Kids & Family,
Society & Culture
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Beyond the Break: Transforming Divorce into Unity with Rabbi Avi Kahan
How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships
40 minutes
5 months ago
Beyond the Break: Transforming Divorce into Unity with Rabbi Avi Kahan

De-escalating High-Conflict Divorce: A Rabbi's Perspective on Finding Peace

Rabbi Avi Kahan joins Seth Nelson and Pete Wright to explore how de-escalation techniques and cultural sensitivity can help families reach sustainable resolutions during divorce. As a mediator handling complex religious and cultural divorce cases, Rabbi Kahan brings unique insights into managing high-conflict situations and helping couples transition from being spouses to successful co-parents.

The conversation delves deep into how fear and conflict often mask deeper emotional struggles during divorce. Seth and Pete explore with Rabbi Kahan how the legal system's focus on "fairness" can sometimes escalate tensions, while religious and cultural perspectives might offer alternative paths to resolution. They discuss how divorce doesn't actually separate parents—it unifies them in a new way as co-parents, requiring them to articulate a new future together for their children's sake.

Questions we answer in this episode:

  • How can you de-escalate high-conflict divorce situations?
  • What role does "fairness" really play in divorce proceedings?
  • How can religious perspectives help in understanding divorce as transformation rather than failure?

Key Takeaways:

  • Focus on living your life, not your divorce—don't let temporary legal proceedings define your actions
  • De-escalation often requires helping both parties want the divorce, not just need it
  • Court litigation can force parents to suppress their authentic selves, potentially harming children

The episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating a contentious divorce, especially those dealing with cultural or religious complexities. Rabbi Kahan's perspective on viewing divorce as a unifying rather than separating force provides a fresh framework for approaching this challenging life transition. 

Links & Notes

  • Visit Rabbi Avi Kahan on the web, Instagram, LinkedIn, or YouTube
  • Schedule a consult with Seth
  • Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here!
  • (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster
  • (00:26) - Meet Rabbi Avi Kahan
  • (01:15) - De-Escalation and Rabbi’s Background
  • (03:29) - In the Interpersonal Space
  • (06:21) - Getting Them on the Same Page
  • (09:51) - To Make Life Better Post-Divorce
  • (10:42) - Decompressing the Proxy Battle
  • (14:56) - Fairness
  • (22:20) - Husband v. Wife, Father v. Mother
  • (24:53) - Lack of Agency
  • (27:46) - Escalation as Coping Mechanism
  • (29:28) - Affecting the Children
  • (33:12) - Preparing for Mediation and Litigation
  • (36:59) - Wrap Up
How to Split a Toaster: A Divorce Podcast About Saving Your Relationships
Seth Nelson is a Tampa based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective — saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.