In this episode we discuss why you can influence, but can't change your spouse. The way you influence your spouse is by helping them understand the way certain behaviors make you feel. That way you are taking responsibility for your feelings, instead of trying to force your spouse to feel a certain way about their behavior. We also discuss the importance of putting your spouse at ease. Your spouse should be the most important person in the world to you. Putting them at ease, and understanding their feelings will help bring you closer together.