This week on How to Find & Keep a Gay Man, the Matts are getting intimate—with the five love languages, that is. You know the ones: words, touch, quality time, gifts, and doing the damn dishes (aka acts of service). We break down how each style shows up in gay relationships—and yes, we spill the tea on our own, too.

But here’s the twist: it’s not just about your love language. We’re asking you to get curious about his—whether he’s a first date, a long-term love, or your husband who still thinks “words of affirmation” means moaning during sex.

So if you want to love harder, smarter, and with fewer hurt feelings over an unacknowledged text or a missed cuddle, press play. Your gay man will thank you.