While pretty privilege is absolutely a thing, it sets us up for absolute failure in many aspects in life. So I came across a video where a girl was ranting in her car about how she saw this gorgeous man and immediately assumed he didn’t like black girls just because he was handsome. I’d say that is a pretty boy problem, to be honest, but that’s beside the point.

What I’m trying to illustrate is that a lot of pretty girls learn early in childhood that they can’t be told no because they are just “too cute to say no to.” And that messes us up in the future when we get into the real world.

The real world will teach us quickly that no matter how attractive you are, you are not everyone’s type. And sometimes, that’s hard to grasp if we’re not used to it or prepared for reality. Some people are not into light skin, some people are not into brown skin, some people are not into hazel eyes, and some people are not into slanted eyes. Some people don’t like thin, some people don’t like tall. Everyone has a preference. And some people don’t care about looks at all if the vibe is not there or the personality and conversation doesn’t mesh with theirs. We are so quick to get upset when we find out that we’re not someone’s type.