Why You Create the Pain You're Trying to Avoid (And How to Break Free)

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Here in Session with Dr. Connor McClenahan

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21 episodes

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If you're like me, you're tired of social media creating artificial boundaries between us and them. Yet we share our most basic desires, fantasies, fears, defenses, and conscious human experience. The more intently we peer outward to understand another, the more we find ourselves looking inward. These conversations are topical dives into specific issues pertaining to psychology, emotion, connection, pain and human potential. Follow along to grow your understanding of yourself and the human experience.

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Why You Create the Pain You're Trying to Avoid (And How to Break Free)

Here in Session with Dr. Connor McClenahan

17 minutes 58 seconds

3 months ago

Why You Create the Pain You're Trying to Avoid (And How to Break Free)

Avoiding painful emotions from childhood—like anger, helplessness, or shame—often recreates them in our closest relationships. Through real examples and concepts like introjection and projection (drawing from experts such as Nancy McWilliams and Otto Kernberg), discover how these defense mechanisms keep toxic cycles alive and learn a hopeful path to freedom by owning and integrating those feelings. Ideal for anyone tired of repeating relational patterns and ready for deeper emotional healing.

#Psychology #MentalHealth #Relationships #EmotionalHealing

Chapters:

00:00:00 Introduction: The Cost of Avoiding Pain

00:02:24 Why Avoidance Recreates Pain

00:04:03 Introjection: Internalizing the Critic

00:07:32 Projection: Attributing to Others

00:12:19 The Hopeful Path: Owning Your Pain for Freedom

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