Have you ever said yes to someone to avoid the guilt that comes with saying no? In this episode, you'll learn the difference between being kind and people pleasing, and where people-pleasing may stem from. Learn how to say no without the feeling of guilt, and ways you can set boundaries and prioritize yourself.
Resources for the Listener:
NPR Life Kit: How to Say No, For The People Pleaser Who Always Says Yes
Therapy in a Nutshell: People-Pleasing
The Holistic Psychologist - Nicole LePera Website
The Holistic Psychologist - Nicole LePera Instagram
Jay Shetty - 7 Steps on How to Say No
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Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction
01:43 - Why Do We Feel Guilty For Saying No?
03:00 - The Signs of People-Pleasing
06:00 - The Cultural Factors of People-Pleasing
08:29 - Why We People Please
11:11 - Effects of People-Pleasing
12:40 - Steps to Prioritize Yourself - Intro
12:51 - Step 1: Self-Reflect and Identify the Line
14:17 - Step 2: You Can Be Both Assertive and Affectionate When Saying No
15:17 - Step 3: Don't Feel Bad for Saying No
17:00 - Step 4: Don't Lead Someone on Without Giving a Definite Answer
18:08 - Step 5: Validate Yourself
20:25 - Key Takeaways, Listener Spotlight, and Ways to Support the Podcast
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